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writes:Ok. Here's the deal.What I like to think is, "I don't wait for marriage to lose my virginity, I wait for love"I've been dating this girl for a year now. And I brought up sex. She says she wants to wait til marriage and insists on that. It's a good plan or idea and everything.But I like the idea of having sex. Sex and Love for me goes hand-in-hand. One package. One whole deal. I don't want to force it upon her or anything..But. What should I do?Is this grounds for break-up because we don't have the same sex drive? We're both virgins. And. I feel like I "need" it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010): Prediction:
You can't wait and eventually break up with her over no sex. She is heartbroken just like you. You both move on.
But then the next guy she gets even halfway serious with, she sleeps with him rather than lose him like she did you.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (26 July 2010):
SO SO wrong...anyone can have sex...if pay for it, is that love?? If you have a one night stand, and never see the girl again, is that love??
If you love her, then you will have no trouble waiting. And what sex drive do you have if you have never had sex? Your hormones and driving you crazy, yes. And yes you would LOVE to have sex to get the hormones out. But which is it...You love to have sex, or love your girlfriend.
If sex and love goes hand-in-hand, then start loving your hand. Trust me, you will be doing yourself more good that way.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 July 2010):
If she doesn't want it, and you do, then it's a no brainer. At 16-17 years old, chances are you're not really ready to commit, even if you think you are. At your age, and given that you want sex, you should be able to have your fun. So, be kind to her and just say that you're not sure it's working out. She deserves to be with someone who has the same beliefs as she does. And if you don't believe that, then you should go and find someone who wants sex like you do.
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