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30-35,
*hatknut
writes:I'm 20 years old in college. Met this girl around 1 year ago. Last semester (January 2012), I had a class with her. She sat by me and we talked all the time. Long Story short, I took her to lunch one day and afterwards I was 100% sure she was into me. 100% no doubt. Anyway, I wasnt sure what I wanted and waited too long. This semester, I told myself I was gonna go after her. I see her about once or twice a week (we are in a business fraternity). So we were talking one day in private and I asked her to get dinner. She seemed really upset, like she didnt want to tell me, that she recently started talking to her x and it would not be ok if we went on a date. But immediately after, she made it clear that they were only "talking" and not dating. Then she says in a huge smile, "but we should hang out sometime." I agreed and she said she would text me sometime. We finished the conversation, It wasnt awkward at all, it went really well. Anyway, IM trying to figure out what is going on. I know for sure she wasnt lying to me about her x because she went to visit him this past weekend in another city, also, this guy broke her heart about a year ago, so i dont know why she would go back. So its been 2 days, no text. In this situation, im not sure if i should text or call her (probably not), or wait till i see her again. or should i not say anything about it? Either way, I really want this girl and I know i had my chance and screwed up, but i hope she gives me a second try. Again, Im 100% sure liked me last semester. Im a pretty attractive guy with a lot, and i mean a lot, in common with this girl, but im also a super funny guy and make her laugh all the time. Please tell me what you guys think is going on in her mind. Haha.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (7 September 2012):
I'm sure there is not much deep thought going on in her mind as you are. You like the girl now so you've come to over analyse the situation. In her own way all she is saying is that she is cool with you. It doesn't have to mean that she will literally text you right away.
When you see her next time, ask to hang out or dinner with her again. The important thing is to remain interested. For now you can not really question her reasons for her behavior with her ex...after all you had your chance and blew it. Both men and women are often at times, questioning the same thing.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (7 September 2012):
 You are the man, you need to ask her out. She gave you the opportunity to ask when she told you you should definitely hang out. I am not sure why you are over-analyzing or why you have waited so long to ask her. Just call or text her and ask her out. It's not a big deal!
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