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writes:Alright, here it goes. Ive been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now. We met when we both worked at Starbucks. When i first met her she was, according to her, completely lesbian; keep in mind. We're from Orlando, fl. and she had to move to Sarasota, about two hours away for school. So about 4 months into the relationship, we found a place and moved in together by her school. After our one year lease was up and her semester ended, we came back to Orlando. When it was time for her to go back to school, she refused to move back in with me, saying she did not have time to work and pay bills because she needed to focus on school. As much as it hurt, i completely understood. Up to this point, i know she has been completely faithful, only because Ive been with her literally every day. But now she lives in a dorm at the school with 3 roommates, and i live still live in Orlando. She has been there since august. Up in till 2 months ago, i thought everything was going along great. Then all of a sudden she tells me shes not doing to good in her classes and she needs to spend more time on her work. She made some new girlfriends while over there, and have become really close. Now shes been staying out till 1 or 2am doing her homework at her friends house, so she says. Then one day she breaks up with me, saying that i was to much of a distraction from her work. She didn't have time to call me every night or even come see me. After a week of pleading her to come see, we did get back together. But still, im very suspicious of her. I mean every night she is out late. When she does call me, we talk for 5 to 10 mins before she says she has to go to sleep. She only comes once a month to see me, when it used to be 2 or 3 times. And to top it all off, her lil bisexual girlfriend asked her if she would like to have a threesome with her and her boyfriend. So i guess my question is, do you guys think she is cheating. Or am i just over reacting to all of this. I would like to confront her, but i feel i need some hard evidence before i do so. Any and all opinions are appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni agree with you to certain point. i mean she says she is no longer homosexual. it was just a phase. another thing i forgot to mention is she wont let me go see her. seeing as how she doesn't always have time or money to come see me, i ask if it would be ok if i went to go see her. she tells me no because she don't feel comfortable with me at her place. and not once since the break up, when ive called her she has answered. i am never able to get in touch with her. i always have to wait for her to call or text me. she says she always has her phone on silent, but i know for a fact when her friends call her, she never misses their calls. even when we are together, if her friend calls she always has to take the call. even when i text her, it takes her hours to respond to me. i love this girl with every fiber of my being and in my heart, nothing feels more right than being with her. i just dont know if she feels the same anymore. but i appreciate your opinion. hearing from a woman does help alot. thanx again
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (9 November 2009):
 I don't know if she's really cheating or not. Her bisexual friend just sounds desperate, and if your girlfriend is smart, she'll know that and say 'no thank you'. Anyway, you haven't ever had a reason to think that your girlfriend would cheat. As for you two living together so early, unfortunately one of the bad things about that is you two didn't have much time to gain trust in one another. If you see each other every day, of course you aren't really given the opportunity to see how one reacts to certain situations.
As far as the cheating goes, I wouldn't really worry about that. I would be worrying more as to how your girlfriend is treating you. You have no basis to question if she is cheating or not, but you do on how she isn't calling you or doesn't want to see you. That's not what people do when they are in love with someone. She obviously had doubts in the relationship before when she broke up with you. It's understandable that she is stressed due to school, and she can't move in with you because of homework, but someone who really cares about someone else would take that and make it a reason to double the efforts of keeping in touch. If me and my partner couldn't see each other due to my financial and educational reasoning, I would make sure I called every night. And I would MAKE time for him. As I am sure you would do the same for your partner.
I really think you are using your girlfriend's neglectful behavior and blaming it on something that just might not be the case. Cheating isn't the issue or the worry at the moment. I would be more worried about if this is the person that you want to be with. I personally think you can find a better girl who treats you like she loves you just as much as you love her. Also I would suggest the next time you go to find a girlfriend, that you find one who 100% knows and is comfortable with her sexuality. That way there isn't any doubts or confusion later down the road. All the best of luck to you!
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