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writes:Alright, well earlier today my girlfriend told me something that has been eating at me a fair bit.We only started dating about a month ago, and for close to a year before that she wasn't seeing any guys, wasn't interested in seeing guys, etc.So she told me she would frequentley hook up with her girlfriends and fool around with them, which was unexpected, but whatever, I didn't think ver much of it.Then she told me her and one of her girlfriends had a threesome with her girlfriend's boyfriend. She said it was nothing, they were all just friends and it just happened. I think I'm just weirded out by that because of the mental image it left with me, but at the same time I can't help but think that the only other girls I know who have doubled up on a guy are slutty, which really wasn't an impression I ever got from my girlfriend. It seems very out of character for her, so I think that's also part of the reason it's bothering me.The thing that gets me the most though is that she's still friends with these people, and she still sees them when they come up to visit. Which also means at some point I'm going to end up meeting them, which doesn't go over too well with me.So do you think I should just drop it and stop worrying? I believe she's faithful and all, but for whatever reason like I said it is getting to me.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (5 December 2008):
 Hooking up with friends be it male or female isn't alarming. Threesoms on the other hand is. End of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): i know how you feel
girls so who things like that do seem slutty and thats a not cool when they're your girl and of course you feel weird because you hate to think about her being like that
but hey she was honest and told you and thats something heaps of people couldnt do! and thats cool she could tell you about it because you had a right to know ay?
and she wont do it again will she?
everyone does stupid things they regret in the past but when you can see they've moved on well then its all good
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reader, katatonik +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Like many other women in the 21st century, she has a past? Shocking!
She has been honest with you. You may not like what you learned but at least she hasn't lied to you about it or tried to hide anything. What she has done before she met you is not going to magically disappear and neither is your knowledge of it. So basically, you have two choices here. You can either accept her as she is or decide you can't handle this newfound knowledge about her, end things, and let her find someone who deserves her. Good luck.
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