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writes:I recently text a guy I am mad about to basically tell him how I feel. We have shared a lot of kisses in the past and he has always acted into me.I sent him a message asking if he wanted to come to my house and watch a dvd and stay over as I really like him.This was his reply.I like you too. I hope I haven't given you the wrong impression when we have been out together a few times. I am flattered you like me but I am just out a relationship and still getting over it to be honest. Friends is all I can offer just now xWhat does he mean? Does he like me and it's just not the right time or is he totally not into me but just trying to be nice about it? He was with his ex for 3 years and they broke up 7 months ago.Thanks! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): He is saying he just wants to be friends. He probably can't tell himself how he might feel in the future but you are looking for something more and he can't give it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): I may be the "eternal optimist," but he may be just a little skiddish about getting into a relationship right now. Who's to say how long it should take an individual to get over a long term relationship? I have found that there are quite a few men out there who hang on to past relationships longer than women do. When they get their heart broken it takes longer for them to heal! Maybe we're just more used to being the one's to get hurt so we have more experience healing.
Whatever the case, if you are really into this guy, maybe he needs a female friend in his life...and who knows maybe a friendship can grow into something more.
Try being a friend first, if it doesn't blossom into what you want...continue the friendship, but continue your search for true love too!
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (5 December 2008):
 Its subjective. In my opinion he is being genuine that means that he could want a relationship with you but not know since he is just out of a relationship that is understandable. Take care!
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reader, philwatson +, writes (4 December 2008):
3 years is a large percentage of his adult life, assuming he is the same sort of age as you. I broke up with someone after 2 years and it took me around 4-5 months to move on before i could really even consider having another relationship again. I have respect for his honesty, he doesnt appear to want to lead you down the garden path. Perhaps just arrange to go out with him a couple of times a week for fun times as friends, without any strings, and see how things go.
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 3 years is a long time to date someone but 7 months is a long time to be so hung up on it that he can't make up his mind whether he likes you or not. You may assume that if he is not really over his ex then some part of him still harbors hope that they will get back together. You can wait and see what happens with this guy if you like, but these don't sound like the words of someone who is really interested in you. Good luck...
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