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writes:I'm absolutely in love with this girl i know, but she only sees me as a friend. We were at a party a few weeks ago and whilst i was drunk i toldher that i loved her but now she dosent believe it, thinking it was just drunk talk. We are really good friends, but I dont know how to show her that i actually do love her so much unlike some of her boyfriends. What should i do, if anything?
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reader, Ed1337  +, writes (22 August 2008):
 You need to tell her how you feel when you aren't drunk, but be aware that you might lose her as a friend as well if she doesn't feel the same way.
I recently told I female friend that I had feelings for her, she just wanted to be friends which i'm ok with, but now we don't even talk. I'm still glad I told her tho, atleast i'm not going to spend the next 6 months thinking about a future i'm never going to have.
Go for it you might get lucky, if not then atleast you had the balls to find out.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 August 2008):
You told her how you feel and she obviously rejected you.
Now she is giving you a get out clause so there is nothing awkward between you.
Accept that she doesn't love you and spend a bit less time with her so you can start to get over her.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, zaybaby120  +, writes (22 August 2008):
I have to agree with Psycookie about telling her about how you really feel. But i have to disagree with "It's better to be friends with the girl you love than for the two of you to hate each other" because, imagine her being in love with someone else rather than you and pretending that your okay with it can really destroy a person. But i wish you the best of luck in your life and hey im in your age range as well im 14 i only put a fake age because i have some friends on this website and i dont want them to know that its me. :D
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (22 August 2008):
 You have to go to her, and tell her you love her in person.
When you do this, look directly at her eyes and if you can, hold her hands. Then, profess your love to her. Don't stutter and get to the point. Don't talk too much.
But if she says "I only want to remain friends/I only see you as my friend", accept that feedback. Then, tell her that you also wish to remain friends but you had to take that out of your chest. It will also be good that before you tell her you love her to say that yyou hope that what you're going to tell her will not change your friendship. It's better to be friends with the girl you love than for the two of you to hate each other.
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