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writes:Hello again agony aunts!i've got a doozy here and need some outside perspective.starting at the beginning, my current girfriend whom i love with all i am, has had some major issues in the last year and a half. basically about two years agot she was having some sort of "e-relationship" with some dude, i'll call him Steve. well i guess it was good for her for a while, then he sent her some strange emails, presumably written by god, telling her to leave the catholic church, go to California, marry steve and start a church there. my girl who is a VERY, scratch that, EXTREMELY religious person, believed them, and said she felt some incredibly deep connection to him via these allegedly devine communiques. now at this time i was crushing on her badly, and making no headway obviously, and was oblivious to these messages( i only found out the better details 6 months or so later, and she actually showed me the messages just a month ago). So after she decides she wants to follow through with it, she tells her parents. Well they tell her that its incredibly foolish, she'd be living on a trailer park budget, would probably get pregnant quick and have a miserable life. they also said that if she went through with it, they'd have nothing to do with her anymore. so she obviously stayed home, but felt that she had betrayed god, and has been spiritually suffering immensely since then. Here's where i come into the picture. during this whole time i had been trying persistently to persuade her to give me a chance at a relationship, and failing spectacularly! (no wonder why!) i eventually gave up, and was incredibly dejected after that, and came dangerously close to making very bad relationship decisions out of low self esteem and loneliness. well at the very beginning of this year, we started talking again, and we started going out (she asked me out, ironically enough, because she was afraid of losing me as a friend) and its been really good, and she's been far happier for the most part. over this time i learned everything that i'm telling you now.So here's the kicker: i'm an atheistand even if i weren't i don't think there's much i can do for her spiritually. we talked just a night ago and she feels a powerful urge to just study her bible and find her new way, but at the expense of shutting her self away from everyone,perhaps for the rest of her life.i'm not asking you do debate region here or to give your verdict on the validity of the messages ect. (but if you want to say something it your call)but i need to know if at this point i can do anything else, aside from love her and support her as best i can.
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reader, rcn +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Interesting dilemma. Remind her of "false profits". When questioning true communication from God, or in this case, NOT, take her and her emails to the Church and have the priest look them over and talk to her. This would be a good way to get her to realize someone was playing an evil joke on her and mocking her religion.
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