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writes: Hi, Can anyone help me?Me and my girlfriend split up at the end of January as she got depressed because of her home life, and wanted a break from me as she was pushing me away, and she didn't want to hurt me. We have stayed in contact mainly through text, but she sometimes doesn't reply and other times she does.The last time i saw her was just under a month ago, it was to hard for me to just be friends, and i told her this, she said that she wants to get back together with me when she is ready.I believe her and i have since asked her twice through text if she means it, and she has said yes. But in 1 text she put, 'I have told you when i am ready i will get in touch - but if you get with another girl while i am not with you, then when i am ready you can decide what to do'. I spoke to her brother yesterday, he told me he had a word with her, and she said that we are supposed to be getting back together, but at the moment her head is all over the place, and she said she is also being honest with me in texts, so surely she must mean it when she says she wants to get back together when she is ready.Do you guys think i should wait for her? Many thanxs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): well i feel like she shld want you there to help her through the tough time. are you sure there is noone else in the picture? or she may want to "spread her wings a bit?" my advice is let it go if you can and enjoy the company of other woman if it happens in the future gr8 if not atleast you havent wasted your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): move on with your life...it doesnt make sense; when they do that means your getting strung.
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reader, :):):) +, writes (27 May 2008):
Wait for her if:
She has made it clear she sees a future for the two of you.
You still have feelings for her.
The reasons you split up are justified.
Dont wait for her if:
You think she is just stringing you along.
Your trust in her is begin to decline.
You believe that the break up was because of other reasons.
Give her a bit of space, maybe not text for a while, if she really cares for you still she will get in touch with you in time. But set a time span in your head, say 3 months. If she hasnt shown interest in that time then it is time for you to move on.
Good luck xxx
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