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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now. Our relationship is GREAT! We are so in love. BUT when he drinks, everything goes down hill. He just turned 21, and is now legal and I worry about what kind of trouble that may get him in. When he drinks he gets big headed and has to be right about EVERYTHING. The night usually ends in a fight with him and one of his friends.....about something stupid. He's always arguing about politics and such. He's right and everyone else is wrong....that's how it is for him. It drives me nuts and I hate being around him when he's drunk. We've also had times where he's got really aggressive. He has said the meanest things to me but doesn't remember it the next day. I've never cried so much on those nights. I've tried talking to him and every time he promises that he won't get that drunk anymore. That he will just get "tipsy" but the thing is that he doesn't know how to do that. When he gets drunk he gets DRUNK! I need advise because I worry that our love alone won't be stronger than the alcohol problem. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): ask your self why you are wasting your time with a drunk....do you have issues with your own self worth????????
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reader, :):):)  +, writes (27 May 2008):
It sounds as if you've been understanding and have asked him to curb his drinking nicely. Which he obviously hasnt done.
Be firm, explain why you dont like it and that it upsets you. Tell him this has to stop right now and he must start being responsible with his drinking.
If possible ask a friend to have a word with him, hearing it from two people may make him realise you are serious.
In situations where he does get drunk and agressive, walk away and ignore him.
Explain to him that not only is the excessive drinking damging his health it also expensive and is damaging your realtionship.
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