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writes:hey, i recently posted this problem on here, 'I have a problem with my ex-girlfriend. after she finished with me we decided to stay friends and i really wanted that because i didn't want to lose her.However i've been feeling like she doesn't want to now. she never makes any effort to get in contact i always have to and she never wants to meet up. when we walk past eachother in school she doesn't even acknowledge my existence, i've tried talking to her about it but she just says i'm being stupid and that she loves me as a friend but im not convinced. i was thinking of stopping getting in contact with her and if she really cares then she will make an effort'.i have done what i said i would and haven't contacted her, and she still hasn't made any effort, although she doesnt ignore me when she walks past me in scool anymore, she just smiles and says hi.is it time to give up? or is there anything else i can do?thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): She might of wanted a friendship in the beginning, but she probably is feeling that this is harder then she thought it would be. Whether she is feeling guilty for the break up, only she could say.
You know she is acting funny about this, avoiding you, so the best thing to do is to work on yourself in getting over her and moving on.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (4 April 2008):
 I know it hurts a lot. If you read back your own words, you wanted to remain friends with her because you "didn't want to lose her" - but I'm afraid that you DID lose her when you first broke up. Trying to remain friends with an ex-girlfriend is like kissing your sister. There's no point to it. You weren't friends when you were going out, you were boyfriend and girlfriend. It's always better to rip off the band-aid fast, because you get the hurt over with quickly. Staying friends, when you are pining away for her, is just prolonging your hurt and pain. I'm sorry that this isn't probably what you want to hear as advice, but I think it's time for you to move on. There is some wonderful new girlfriend out there that you haven't met yet because you are looking for her! Get yourself off the shelf and get back in the game, you deserve to be having some fun again!
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