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writes:I like a girl, she's 23 and I'm 31. I really want to be more than friends, but she says she is not looking for love at the moment. (I think I read on here that women always say the opposite to what they really mean!)Has anyone got any tips on how to 'speed it up'? I don't want to scare her away! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe answers keep getting deleted!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe said on Tuesday (yesterday) that she is very busy over the summer; so I played it cool and said text me when you can come out, but then she said she didn't want to start anything!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): She is just not that into you and you can't make her like you. Listen, If she was interested she would be all over you. You'er making a fool of your self have some dignity and leave this girl alone. She is at a compleatly different stage in her life than you, thats probably why she does not find you attractive. She has more in common with guys her age. You begining to sound like a creep she may think the same thing. She said no, don't you get it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIs it possible then, that she could be 'waiting' for me to do something?
Should I ask her on a walk, or for a drink or the cinema just as friends and see what she says?
Maybe she's a bit intimidated (maybe not the right word) by me being 8 years older than her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is one of her messages:
Hey its fine I'm just not looking to date right now or get envolved with anyone you know I'm just trying to concentrate on my job and trying to sort my career out! I know it may sound selfish but there's a lot in life I feel I need to do and achieve and for once in my life that's coming first before love! x
I'm thinking of taking her to the cinema, as we talked about film genres before. What do you think? How should I word it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHowever, she did say to my mum (I know that sounds bad, but it's not) - she works with her - that she will go out with me as friends.
I can't just say to her 'Ami, cut the crap! I know you're looking for love'!
Here;s that message from Facebook:
Hey its fine I'm just not looking to date right now or get envolved with anyone you know I'm just trying to concentrate on my job and trying to sort my career out! I know it may sound selfish but there's a lot in life I feel I need to do and achieve and for once in my life that's coming first before love! So I'm really tom x
We also had a FB convo about film genres a while back. Do you think I should ask her to the cinema or to see a film?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thought I'd ask to a World Cup game, she watches England! I think what she means is she'd like to get a decent job first!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): Believe, I am a woman. If she said that, she is not that into you. We always looking for love.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 June 2010):
If she's not looking for love, then there's no speeding it up. I know, because I've tried it. Women don't always say the opposite of what they mean. This is one of those cases.
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