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writes:My girlfriend has had this guy "friend" for i don't know how long. Longer than she has known me. She went to go hang out at his house one night. She ended up staying the night over there. I saw her the next day and she said they were just watching movies, admited falling asleep in his bed, but she said nothing happened. I was angry but i still stayed with her because i didn't want to be alone. I was already hurting from my previous relationship. I found out later that they used to have sex on occasion and i confronted her about it. She admitted it. I told her i didn't care if they slept together before she met me but why did you do it when you was already with me? She couldn't answer me. I asked her if they had sex that one night and she said no. I asked her if he made a move on her and she said no. Which is hard to believe. This happened over a year ago but i just can't let it go. Especially since she gets jealous of me JUST LOOKING at other girls. What should i do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): Wow. Yea u should dump her. Even if she didnt cheat she still puts herself in the situation needed to. And by the way she lies shows she knows some of the thngs tht she does is wrng bt she still does thm. Wondering can hurt jus as bad as knowing sept u also gota worry about how much bigr of a liar she mite b. If she wants to act single, she needs to be single neway!
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reader, doublejack +, writes (18 October 2010):
She's made you her doormat. It is time to dump her and move on.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 October 2010):
 I wouldn't believe her either.
I think you should break up with her. My opinions aside, it's clear you haven't got over this, and the reason is, something deep inside of you tells you that you shouldn't believer her story.
I think she's a little "unilateral", too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): I'm a guy, and the women who responded seem to have said it all...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 October 2010):
 She has no respect for you. Regardless of whether or not she cheated, it's disrespectful to fall asleep in some other guy's bed. It's extremely hypocritical to be yelling at you for just looking at other people, all the while she's still sleeping in her fuck buddy's bed? I don't think so. Dump her.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 October 2010):
 Your girlfriend is a hypocrite. I will say it is true for a guy and a girl to be strictly friends and nothing more..BUT if they have a sexual past then it is very difficult to keep it as friends with that history. I see a lot of red flags here, falling asleep in his bed, the previous casual sex, and when she couldn't answer you. From all that it says she cheated but you have no hard evidence. I say let her go because you have previous trust issues and it's been a year later with this still in the back of your mind. She should have went over to her friend's house to watch a movie and then go back home. Not fall asleep in his bed, why not the couch? They could have slept separately and she also could have invited you to come along. There's something that went on but unfortunately you're not going to get it out of her. Break up with her because you have to have trust in order for a relationship to function.
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