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writes: A Question to all you woman out there, my wife tells me guys are attracted to women more from a phyisical stand point, women from a emotional. that a mans body, penis size are not important. I cant believe my wife who has been with better body, bigger size men can tell me I am what she has fantasized about all her life as a man. I have an average size penis, I am overweight and feel like she is just trying to make me feel good. I feel insecure even though she has told me these things. I have seen her ex-husband and some prior boy friends and none are heavy like me. she tells me that none of those things matter to a woman. its how I make her feel. none of those guys made her feel the way I make her feel. she said nobody shes been with sexually comes close to me in any way, I am perfect for her.
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reader, mystify +, writes (18 March 2006):
 im sure you are all your wife ever wanted, sometimes i hear men saying "i like a bit of meat on my woman" this istrue for us women too if your woman says you are the one , get in there and enjoy it!!!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (15 March 2006):
 From a guy, your wife is correct. Be happy it's that way too. It gives all us average guys a chance. Can you imagine if everything was based on looks. Relationships would all fail because there will always be a better looking person areound the corner to tempt you. That's why they are called "relationships" as opposed to attractions. Can you imagine describing your life with your wife to somebody as an attractionn ? ...." really love Mary. We really have a great ATTRACTION" The word relationship is so much more encompassing and meaningful. Attractions are fleeting. We all have them and always will. That reminds us we're normal and alive. Who you give your attention and love to are what makes a RELATIONSHIP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2006): I agree with your wife. My boyfriend is not the best lookin gguy I've ever dated nor does he have the body of my ex, but he moves my world in bed because i'm in love with him. Its not the size, it's whatyou do with it that counts! Sounds cliche, but is completely true. Your attitude in bed is what it's important. The fact that you love her and her body is what counts. Why sell yourself short? Your insecurities are just yours. If you want to change your body, change it for yourself.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (15 March 2006):
 You said it, you are perfect for her so stop all this nonsence about her ex fellas etc, they are all in the past, you are her future and she is happy just accept you have more than most.
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reader, juliagulia +, writes (15 March 2006):
 I agree completely with missbunbury about trying to be less negative about your body and your wife's compliments. You can't compare yourself to others all the time. Just because some that came before were better looking, does not necessarily mean they were better lovers than you or that she enjoyed sex more because someone else had a bigger penis. I have been with all kinds of men and I can honestly say that some of the better looking ones were terrible in bed and did not meet my needs at all, while some of the less physically attractive ones really knocked my socks off. And yes, size does matter a little, but only in the sense that if it is teeny-tiny, it isn't going to do much for a woman. But if you are around the average size, you have nothing to worry about. And even if it is teeny-tiny (we are talking 2 inches hard, by the way), there are a lot of things you can do to please your lady besides intercourse. Having said that, I think that if you are truly insecure about your weight, getting some exercise will help you not only lose some weight, but you will feel more attractive and you will have more energy. Your wife seems to love you just the way you are, but I think rather than feeling insecure about your looks, it might do you some good to try to improve what you don't like about yourself so you can feel better about your body and find some confidence. Remember -- confidence is everything. It doesn't really matter how someone looks, if they are nonchalant and seem confident about what they have, they will be much sexier than someone who is insecure. So get out there and start feeling better about yourself!
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reader, missbunbury +, writes (15 March 2006):
 For the record, I agree with your wife. It's not all about physical attraction; if it were, the world would be an extremely shallow place. I know from my own experience that insecurity is a terrible demon to have hanging around your neck - these negative feelings magically manage to self-replicate, and even seem to be able to kill off positive input from the people we love.
If I had a penny for every time my boyfriend has complemented me, only to be met with "No, I'm NOT beautiful, I'm DISGUSTING", I'd have a lot of pennies, believe me! Lately though, I've realised that I'm not helping myself with this - when my partner tells me something nice and I immediately respond in the negative, I'm actually helping my insecurity to deepen its grasp on my thoughts. So now I take time to think about what he's said, and to thank him for his kind words, and when I hear that little demon piping up with "But how can you be looking gorgeous when you ate that whole cake earlier?", I just ignore it. It hasn't gone away, not yet, but you know what? The voice is getting quieter.
It sounds like you have a lovely wife, who loves you deeply. She's trying her hardest to make you feel better about yourself, and I think now is a really great time to start helping her with that, by making a resolution to stop these negative thoughts from running out of control. It's not easy, but I'm getting there, and I have every confidence that you can get there too.
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