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writes:My ex and my baby's daddy has a new girlfriend, he keeps telling me that it will not bother him when i meet someone else, is this true? we were together four years have two children together. he says i was the love of his life his world but only took him three weeks to move on! help plz!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for your help
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reader, SavannahDawn  +, writes (27 March 2012):
I feel you dear. My ex was already after women the moment we broke up. It didn't take him even a week to start thinking about dating, way to slap someone in the face.. but you know what? It's cliche but we truly are better off without the likes of them. They love love, not us. If she doesn't work out he'll probably move onto someone else quickly again and again. All you can do is worry for you and that baby. I always wondered why we allow ourselves to feel so much love and care for these men who truly could care less for us? It seems silly when you step back and really look at it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): Take his actions for it, not his word. Men say alot of things. It's pretty obvious that his feelings for you are not as deep as he claims. I'm sorry. Don't freak out. Be strong. Just make sure he takes care of the child you both have together and make sure you do the same.
Hope things get better. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): Play games back then. He got with somebody else super quick, so why the heck are you bothered about what he thinks?
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reader, delightful84 +, writes (26 March 2012):
Carry on with your life. Do what suits you. His games will only affect you if you let them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): Why worry over an ass like him? You should put yourself in the drivers seat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): You were together 4 years and after 3 weeks he gets someone else. To be honest, the last thing you should be caring about is him. Do whatever you want to do with your life.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 March 2012):
 well time to make it legal then? Make a custody agreement? Then he will HAVE to make time, won't he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tryed to do that he says he hasnt got time. i have tryed to explain that what he is doing osntrgton the kids at all he says myo he doesnt care what i think
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 March 2012):
Sit your baby's daddy down and make some ground rules. It's just common sense.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 March 2012):
People go through a break up do different things to "get over" it. Some go out and have sex with the first person they meet, some date the first person who pays attention and some look to their past for ex's to "date" and then you have people who needs solitude and celibacy to move on and find themselves again.
It takes all kinds.
However, I don't think it matters if he is OK with you dating or not. The thing is ARE you OK with dating? If so, go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): I agree with bronzed adonis. Some just fall in and out of love with whoever will have them. Of course it's not real love what he had for you, but he will think it was. Don't even think about a future with that man. You see exactly what he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust hard when we split he played loads of games. he's been with his girlfriend 5 months now and thinks its all right for my baby's to call his girlffriend's mam grandma, like hes playing a game. i have met someone i like but im scared to tell him in case he up his games
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reader, Uncle PJ  +, writes (26 March 2012):
 The odds are he will get upset when you meet someone else, this is because he will realise that he has no control over you anymore and, for some reason, it tends to hurt his ego or whatever.
This doesn't necessarily mean that he would want you back despite being the mother of his children and his 'love of his life'. So don't get your hopes up or try to do it to make him jealous in a bid to win him back.
With two children involved, you obviously cannot cut him out of your life completely. That really won't help you to move on but the children need their parents, together or otherwise. But you may need to try to move on and find someone who can be a better father figure and, more importantly, treats you and loves you the best they possibly can.
If it sparks a reaction then there's not a lot you can do about it. You may have to just fight it out if there is jealousy or male pride involved. But again do not sort it in front of the children, the last thing they need is to see their parents at each other's throats.
I doubt it'll come to that and hopefully you can both find solace in the fact that you have both moved on and are happy/ier than before. I know it hurts to see him move on so quickly but guys tend to cut and run when a relationship ends, this way it prevents too much hurt. He may realise he wants you back or he may not, but you cannot sit and wait for him, you must move on so that you can be happy again. I wish you the best of luck and I really hope this helps.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (26 March 2012):
 Some people are like that. They just need to be in a relationship no matter what. Should the latest love of his life decide she doesnt want him any more, I would think twice about ever going back with him. You know just what he`s like now.
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