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writes:Hey. I am wondering how do i get rid of this horrible feeling of loss......my girlfriend dumped me Saturday at a Christian camp out.....the same day as prom. she just came up to me after like not even talking to me or hanging around with me for like a day and a half. and said that we needed to talk and we walked a bit down the road and she told me she couldn't go out with me anymore. then she just turned and walked away.....I asked her if she would give me a reason before she went to far. and she just told me "I think you already know what it is" then just left....I totally feel like a wimp cause I tried not to cry while just standing in the middle of the road. but I really couldn't help it....a couple of my friends came up and we just walked for a while.she said on Friday that she loved me. and i found out from her friends that she really did feel like she did. I loved her also...I just never told her.... how dose that work? she says she loves me. then just comes up and dumps me?I seem to love her as a sister as well as like a lover......how do those two feeling work??I can handle loosing her as a girlfriend.....barely.But it seems that I just lost one of the best friends I have. And that hurts a thousand times more that loosing her as a lover. how do I get over this? I really don't wanna walk around feeling that I'm on the edge of tears all the time......
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Hi,
It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do and there is nothing wrong with shedding a tear when you have been dumped.
Her telling you that she loves you and then dumping you indicates that she is very confused about what she wants, so you are better off out of the relationship -though you will probably not see it that way at the moment. It was also very unfair for her to tell you she loves you when she was unsure about the relationship but unfortunately a lot of women are like that. It's a very shoddy thing to do but it happens to a lot of people, so try not to take it personally. At the very least she should have explained her behaviour and apologised for the mixed singnals but if she hasn't done that then she is not worth shedding a tear over and you are better off moving on.
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reader, binhquangdao +, writes (5 May 2008):
 dont' dread over her just move on if she dont' want to be with you then go ahead and move on with your life be focus she's young she probably wants to "EXPLORE THE FIELD" most females do that so let them go if you hold onto her there no feeligns involves and it's useless
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reader, JesseENG +, writes (5 May 2008):
it'll be all right man. most people feel this when they get dumped. it's entirely natural. time heals all wounds and eventually youll meet the right girl. good things take time.
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