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writes:Ok so I dont have a huge problem persay with this,more rather I want some opinions on the matter.Ive been seeing this girl for about a week now,weve been talking for over a month now and things seem to be going well. Last Saturday we went on a date and the topic of Facebook came up. Wheni asked if she had a page she declined,then I asked again...really you don't?,as shes a younger girl (21),and its kinda a rarity that a young woman wouldn't...but whatever I thought maybe she just don't.So Sunday the next day she comes over to my house I make us a exquisite dinner,we have a few drinks and end up sleeping together,which was fine since we have been seeing each other for the last week and talking for awhile,and the mood just felt right so we did it. Now the next day after shes gone,i am on Facebook browsing,and I typed her name in for fun...what do I see,her qnd another guy posing in a pic togetherWTF!!,I thought...well maybe its her brother as they are just standing next to each other...so I dig a little.deeper in her friends list,and BAM!!,there is a pic of her and the same guy kissing in his profile pic...so obviously its.her b/f or something like that...idk. So im in a pickle,do I say anything to her or just let it go,I really dont wanna be a second pick,and I do like this girl alot,soi guess I am asking for advice,what should I do??
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 May 2012):
 I'd just drop her. And move on. That is a shady girl with shady behavior. If she is willing to screw her BF of 3 years over, she will screw you over too.
You already know she is a liar and now you know, she is a cheat too.
She doesn't sound like a keeper at all. Toss her back in the pond.
I'm sorry she turned out to be such a toad.
Chin up.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (31 May 2012):
Thanks for the follow up, OP.
It's one of those times I don't like to be right. Sometimes life throws you a curveball. I felt the same way when I found out the guy I was getting close to was actually married. Be happy you found out about this now rather than later when you could have gotten truly attached. It's even worse for the boyfriend as he's probably oblivious to the fact his gf is a lying cheat. Poor guy.
Please keep us updated on your situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I looked into this deeper and turns out I think it is her boyfriend,I looked at his page and according to what I see, theyve been together for 3years,he has alot of pictures that look as though hes in the navy...and I guess she is looking for someone on the side...cause I saw the picture of them kissing was on the 8th of may when he changed it to that...and she still has been using Facebook as ive seen updates,and she has also changed the profile picture on her page...So it seems like im second pick...this always happens to me...I hate life,and what really sucks is that I was really.beginning to like her,turns out shes no different then my past...but thanks for all your responses just.confirmed what I suspected...im going to say something to her tomorrow when she comes over...this should be interesting...
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX  +, writes (30 May 2012):
 when was it taken? it could be an old photo of an ex, when she used facebook, but has the stopped using it completely? It would be best to ask her otherwise you'd never know.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (30 May 2012):
I think you should confront her when you meet up next time. Ask her calmly whether she cheated on her boyfriend with you. Then watch her reaction and take it from there. If she asks how you got that info, say it wasn't hard to conclude after seeing a picture of her and this guy kissing on his facebook profile and a picture of her and him posing together on her profile--which she claimed didn't exist. Then let her try talk her way out of it.
If you're not satisfied with her answers, dump her. To be honest I really can't think of a good explanation that would be satisfying. I mean, if he is her ex she wouldn't keep him in her profile picture and neither would he, especially not a picture of them kissing. The most likely possibility is that she wanted some action on the side, or was setting you up as the rebound guy. In any case, the best case scenario is being second pick and you deserve better than that.
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