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30-35,
*ikeycaine
writes:right i like this girl so much . we have been talking for about 3 months and that included text , msn , phone and meeting up . she called me the cutest and sweetest guy she has ever met and she told me when she got to know me better we would talk about a relationship. how ever i got real drunk a few nights ago with my mates and i was on my phone texting away at her mate saying i wanted to bed her . she wasnt drunk and she was agreeing she would . next day the girl i like found out and took a mood on me . she said im stalking her by talking to her all the time even though she starts the conversations first all the time. i mentioned that to her and she said " she felt she had to " now what the hell . she also said im obsessed with her and she said she hates how everyone knows i like her including her and my whole school . she literally went mad on me . i know and she knows and other do she has been knwon to take moods but im not sure this is just a mood. my question have i really blown it ?and what does she mean by " i felt i had to "and i forgot to add every text she sent me was followed by "ily" with about 4 rows of x's . if she thought i was a stalker and all the rest WHY would she do that ? is it because she is mad ? please help mike -
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Ah the perils of drink mixed with cellphones. You know you really should have to hand your phone in the minute you start drinking.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Have you blown it? Yes, she's mad. She wouldn't have cared that the whole school knew you liked her before your drunken incident. However now she feels like a fool because if everyone knows that you were keen on bedding her friend, that certainly doesn't make her feel good about herself. Rookie mistake bro, get drunk or text, never both.
What did she mean when she said "I felt I had to"? Probably just trying to be polite, especially if you have mutual friends and you both have to be civil towards each other. If she's always the one to initiate contact with you she might just want to have you as her friend.
You're not a stalker at all, but you did make a rather big mistake and you gotta learn from it. Delete her phone number, msn and facebook. Be polite to her at school, but don't initiate any contact, just move on. If she tries to msg you, don't reply. If she msgs you again even with no reply from you, then maybe you could have a second chance, but don't bank on it.
Best of luck :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 May 2010):
Yep, you blown it pretty much beyond anything that is fixable. Big style. You texted her friend asking for sexual favours. And she agreed. Which means your friend has been stabbed in the back by you and her friend. So no longer are you the guy she thought was cute. Now you're the player and she won't look at you twice. Everything she has said to you since is her way of getting back at you because you've hurt her and left her utterly embarrassed. Learn from this and never hurt another girl like this again.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Mike, you texted her friend looking for sexual favours so the girl you like is just mad with you - you have humiliated her. To rationalise things out in her own mind, she has decided that you are a 'stalker'. She probably liked the fact that you fancied her - she may have been flattered. But now she knows that she isn't the special one, but one of many ladies that you text then she feels a bit used and doesn't trust you. When she said she felt that she had to communicate with you, she is justifying her conduct. What she is trying to say is that she didn't talk to you because she likes you but she was just being polite and respectful knowing you have feelings for her. I am sure she is saying that because she is upset you have betrayed her. She sees you as a player now and not a prospective boyfriend.
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