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*rs. Marshall
writes:Me and my G/F have been together for a few years. We have been through a lot. She is very sweet and loving, but sometimes she pushes me away. I love her so much and I am in love, we are in love. Soon we are going to move when were old enough and get a small appartment. But i'm scared to ever lose her. I have trouble asking or telling her things sometimes, because she gets so mad or upset and I am scared to lose her. She said she isn't going to leave, but I get scared. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): If you are going to live together you are going to have to get used to the reality of each other. She's told you she's not going anywhere so instead of worrying when she gets mad, find out why and find a way through any problems.
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reader, Loah  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Hey there,
It seems to me that you have to work on yourself a bit. Insecurity and lack of confidence can really take its toll on any relationship. I dont mean to jump to conclusions but thats the vibe I get from reading your question. You must learn to have confidence in yourself as well as your relationship. Your own personal insecurity may have a huge impact on the two of you. Therefore she pushes you away at times. Your doubt may be the cause of it all. Hope this helps. Wish you well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): First, don't drive your self nuts over the possibility of loosing her, your madness may make it happen.
I think one of the possibilities of her not wanting to talk and getting mad can be many. Let me offer one or two:
Is everything with her going well? Is she having any problems in her life, such as, with school, family, friends or even you?
Is she the type to not share her feelings? When you share yours, does she think having those feelings is bad?
Sometimes in relationships, you have to be a detective, and investigator, a healer, one who can watch another and tell something is bothering them because of body language or behavioral changes. She could be stressed and troubled about something that happened. She may fear the future impact of it, and not be prepared for it, feeling incapable of handling it.
Communication is important. Knowing what the other thinks and feels, knowing there needs bonds to people very close. Getting there is the hardest thing to do, but without it, the relationship could fail.
Don't be pushy, if she gets mad, then stop! Learn to notice when she is more suseptible for this type of conversation. Relationship are hard, feelings are even harder to deal with at times.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Hunny I think the best thing to do is tell her exactly how you feel .... Tell her how you don't want to ever ever lose her and any other feelings you need to get out. If you keep things bottledd up then you'll just hurt yourself.
If you both are in love as much as you say you are then you should be able to tell her anything and her understand and you be afraid to ask or tell her anything .
I hope this helped :)
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I wish you both the vwry best and I hope everything works out !
*~VG~*
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