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writes: I was seeing a girl from work for three months; nothing serious. Texting, meeting up a few times. It was her that initiated everything at first. She told me about a previous boyfriend that she was in love with two years ago cheated on her and broke her heart. We were out last weekend, drunk, and said that she didn't want a boyfriend, she just wanted it casual because of her previous experiences. She said that I was perfect, liked me and fancied me, but she also said that I should find myself a nice girl. (That confused me.)Don't know why, but I got angry and stormed off. I texted her the next day, said I was sorry and the casual thing was fine by me. However thinking about it the next day, I texted her back again and said that I didn't want anything casual if it wasn't gonna go anywhere. She text back saying it was fine! I really like this girl but how do I get her back as I do still want to be with her, even if it is only casual?
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reader, Starrla +, writes (20 March 2006):
 Just text her or call her and tell her that the casual thing will be okay with you,and be there for her whenever she needs you,and adventually whenever she gets over her ex boyfriend she'll figure out that she wants you back....
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reader, Carr1e +, writes (19 March 2006):
My honest opinion (being someone that is in a similar situaton) is that this girl is testing you. You say her last boyfriend cheated on her so I think she might have some trust issues to work out. Making the comment about you meeting a nice girl makes me think that she is testing the water to see if you would jump at the opportunity to be with someone else. My advice would be to do one of two things depending on her personality, overall, backoff a little, give her time to work out exactly what she wants, then do one of two things (1) be friends but nothing else, until she knows what she wants, dont always be available when she wants you to be or (2) make her jealous, not necessarily by dating other girls but be friendly with them - if she sees this then she might experiance feelings of jealousy that suprise her. Other than that its sounds like what she really needs right now is a friend, clear the air with her and get one being happy in your life, giving her space to work things out, whats for you wont go past you.
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