She manipulated and backstabbed me!!

A female age 36-40, *oadzealot writes:

My ex best friend is about to have a baby. I'm also going to have one. Our friendship came to a drastic conclusion after several fights. But I still have these ridiculous dreams where she makes me feel guilty. I know I did some things to upset her, but she manipulated and backstabbed me several times throughout our friendship; some of which included dating my crush long distance behind my back and when she came to visit me, trying to have sex with him, lying to me about it for years afterward, talking trash with our mutual friends behind my back, and many other things. I always forgave her for everything, but I think I still held onto some hurt just to keep it from happening again. She introduced me to someone I liked almost immediately, and I told her I was interested. But she asked him out behind my back and even told one of our friends that she only did it because I was interested. They ended up getting married, and I was happy for them. But after only three months, she cheated on him and he committed suicide. I loved him so much and I felt a responsibility to her, so I comforted her. But she seemed insensitive about his death, and the more I saw of her manipulative side, the more resentful I felt toward her. Eventually, we got into a spat and I told her I'd prefer it if we just weren't friends anymore. That only lasted a little while before she came whining to me with her sob stories. I gave in, then she started berating me again, so I stopped speaking to her altogether. It's been two or more years since we've spoke, and I have this urge to congratulate her and just talk to her every once in a while. Would that just be stupid of me?

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