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writes: Yellow.well, I have this amazing boyfreind. he is PERFECT. he cares about me, treats me well and all. but he lives in a different state. And I've realised, that i dont want to be with him. Not now though, maybe after i graduate from college. But I cnat brake up with him because my rents would kill me and id crush his heart.so how can i make him breakup with me? its hard because he sia dthat even if i chated on him he would fin a way to forgive. so i have to make him not love me, i sthere a way? I know i sound cold and B**** but i dnt want to hurt him, not again (I brke up with him once and then aksed fo rhim back and h said yes)how can i do this?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (1 June 2008):
You said you dont want to hurt him by breaking up with him, well doing it your way would hurt him too! If you do something so horrible to him to make him break up with you, thats hurting him stil and in fact probably more. I think he would rather knwo that you really do like him but its jsut not right at this moment in your life to be with him. Have an honest conversation with him about how you feel and it wont be as painful as making him hate you for something mean you would have to do to him.
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reader, Miss williamz  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 I dont truly dont understand this. When someone is loved they tend not to like that.but they enjoy the love they dont get attention but force themselve into. Once you let this guy go You wilL never find this love again. You should appreciate the little you have.he may be far but there is love. Your proBlem now is peer pressure think ahead and not now that your in college alone. But wont help you 2break any mans heart. Just listen to yourslef.there pple out there dying to be loved but they dont get it.
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reader, mimisoph3  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 u can make him unspeacuall like when u call him make small talks and if he asks how was ur day dont tell him the whole story just be like oh its fine and make small talks then his gonna be like hey i dont wanna waist my time so he breaks up wit u..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): You've gotta be an adult about this and split with him yourself.
You shouldn't be hurting your BF and yourself in order to do what you think they would want. Your romantic life does not belong to them. (And would you let them stand in the way if you were totally in love with some guy that they didn't like? Worrying about what they want can be lot more useful when it gets you off the hook for doing a tough job like this breakup, huh?)
It's part of maturity. Not only starting & enjoying romantic relationships, but also ending them honestly & fairly.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 June 2008):
 Look, the thing is that you'd have to hurt him really badly to get him to break up with you. In fact, you might hurt him so badly he'd never want to see you again, and the idea that you might be able to see him after you get out of college is completely over. And of course if you break up with him, you're going to hurt him as well.
There is no way past this, he is going to be hurt either way. The most honorable thing is to be true to yourself and your feelings and tell him the truth. And your parents should back your decisions and choices if they are made for the right reasons and in a mature manner.
Your age of 16-17, is that correct? You still have a bit of maturing to do, I'm not trying to be mean here, but you're not fully grown up yet. And part of growing up is dealing with uncomfortable and difficult choices.
Be honest, be truthful and no one can blame you for this decision. It is what you've decided is best for you, and if you can explain this well, you'll be supported by your family, and your boyfriend will understand.
Good luck, I hope things turn out for the best!
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