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writes:My girlfriend of 9 months told me she had to meet up with her girl friends for lunch, I had no objections to this. I was at a hotel when she went to lunch, I checked out of the Hotel at 1:30 pm, she was supposed to meet me around the check out time (1:30 PM) because she was driving my vehicle, she never showed up until 5:00 pm, meanwhile I was waiting in the lobby from 1:30pm to 5:00 pm, I was very upstet. I tryed calling her 7 times around 4:00pm, she never answer my call. Finally, she called me around 4:30 pm, telling me she is on her way.I told her I been waiting for her almost 4 hrs, she was very apologetic, her excuse was she forget her cell phone in the restaurant and she had to return to get it. I later found out via facebook postings from her friends she lied to me where she was with her friends. I do see pictures with her friends taken that day.I do not what to think about this especially after waiting in a Hotel for almost 4 hrs. and than finding out that she lied about where she was with her friends.Should I just put a cap on this and end it?I need some advice, please.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (22 January 2013):
 If she lies a lot yes get rid of her. If not talk to her about this not happening again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2013): If this is the first time she's done something like this then give her a pass with the clear condition that you really will not tolerate it happening again without some kind of courtesy call and lying to you about something like this is not on.
If she's regularly inconsiderate or a lies a lot then by all means dump her.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (22 January 2013):
 Hi, I must admit I would not appreciate my BF making me wait 4 hours in the lobby of a hotal, and then lie about it. It shows total lack of respect. Also what stopped her from calling you/sms etc? What was she really up to or who was more important than you , that she sacrificed you for the other person.
Made you wait 4 hours and then lie......what more is yet to come..... If you choose not to end things, you will have to be watchfull of her where about and other lies to follow.
I must admit its hard to end a relationship and we find excuses not to let go , even when we know something is not good for us.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 January 2013):
 I can understand how you'd be tempted, if I were you I'd be absolutely fuming.
Considering she could have texted you, " sorry, running late , get a cab ". I mean, you know how it is with these things, at times you have trouble disentangling yourself, you don't want to be the party pooper and spoil the mood , hey it happens, I don't think you'd have bitten her nose. Are you are instead surely entitled to do after being left stranded 4 hours in a hotel lobby. AND found out she lied.
So, yeah, big BIG lack or respect , and dumpable offence, I don't think you are overrreacting.
Then again, as the other poster says , it all depends : if so far she has been a fantastic gf who never gave you heartaches, and it's her first serious offence, well, being her first offence she gets probation. But tell her in no uncertain terms that you can forgive her ONCE for this kind of inconsiderate rudeness, she won't get a second chance.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (22 January 2013):
Well you didn't say much about her other than this incident.
But if it didn't surprise you that she'd do something like this then yes, I'd be done with her.
On the other hand if she was great otherwise I'd probably not. She may have been having a blast and let time get away from her.
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