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writes:Hi everyone,some of you may still remember my weird story with the girl I fell in love... Well, there is a huge update which I want to discuss.. Well, I got told the last time that she would be probably playing around with me, because she aroused me and was just wanting fun with me. Fact was that she has a Boyfriend.Well, things are changing. Yesterday she told me she loves me. She is wanting to leave her boyfriend, but the problem is that it's her first boyfriend. She doesn't seem to love him no longer, but I can understand her, he is an Ass. He would leave her down when she most needs him. In fact, he once wanted to, but a friend of hers bribed him. If he would have left her at the time, she would have fallen in a depression.Before she told me that she loves me, we wanted to have a date and go to a spa, but she didn't appear. She then called me and told me that she felt terribly sorry but that she couldn't do anything without hurting me. She told me that she also is hardly in love with me and is affraid to do something what she would later on repent. She also said she is having trouble with her mother (she is living alone an this time) and that she is having a crisis with her boyfriend. She also told me that she can't take it any longer with her boyfriend but neither she can be without him. She then ended her statement like this: "I feel overrun, I just don't know what to do".I guess it's the bondage to the "first one" wat is hatching her.Thanks to this I can't think clearly about anything else, because she told to me the words that my heart wanted to listen, and the problem is that I have to write an Exam in maths in a week, here, at the University, dammit. I would say she isn't using me anymore, and all things that happened were consequences from her love to me, but then again I want your opinions. I can get pretty narrow-minded when I start to believe in false deductions.I already told her I love her and also tried once to get off from her, but then went back..Do you think that I might have a chance with her? Or is she just faking? Should I try to help her or leave her clear her mind and make her own decisions without interferring? what should I say to her if she asks me what to do?? How can I concentrate having her in my mind all day and all night??So many questions.. I hope I'm not stressing you with my problems..Thank you for reading,CheersPD: I have told her that She is what I most want in my life, that I will always be there for her..
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (16 November 2009):
 I'm afraid that you're fighting a losing battle there, my friend! She obviously doesn't know what she wants, and until she does, I'd advise you to steer clear of her. You don't want to be used until someone 'better' comes along! You deserve to be respected and loved for yourself!
She needs time to make up her own mind about what she wants, so respect her and give her that time. If she really cares about you, she'll come to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): I think that you need to leave her well alone mate. She is using you and even if she does 'love' you she has DISASTER written all over her.Break free and find your own angel.Good luck.
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