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writes:There's a girl who likes me. Problem is, she lives over 3 hours away.We met over facebook. Until she revealed how she felt, I thought it was just friendly banter. Although, there were a couple of occasions where we were clearly flirting. During our conversations, it's quite obvious that we both miss having someone, and that we both feel that we have been single for so long. She would say "I miss knowing that somebody is thinking about me while I think about them", and I knew exactly what she meant. Last night when she left our conversation, I sent her a text assuring her that somebody would be thinking of her tonight, she replied "I'll be thinking of you too xxx"Now, it all sounds magic, right? But the distance is a big factor in this, for me especially. The only proper relationship I had was a 2-year long distance one. I am hoping to get into a relationship that ISN'T long distance, for a change. But with this girl, there isn't anyway of avoiding that. When I go to university in September, that will mean that she is about 2 hours and 40 minutes away by car. Until then, you have to add another hour onto that journey. Another problem is, since my dad has changed his job and now lives away from home during the week, I only have a car on a weekend, which is when I work.So, I just wonder what I should do. Part of me would really like to see if something happens with this girl, but I know there's a part of me that doesn't want to endure another long distance relationship, which would clearly be a little bit of a struggle. If she lived locally, I'd go out with her in a second, but because she isn't I'm having doubts and I don't want to hurt her after she has been honest with me.I know I have to make the decision, but my main concern is sparing this girls feelings. Is there anything you can suggest?
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reader, Nikkii Babyee +, writes (30 April 2008):
 heyy! :) firstly just wana say thats sucha a cute wee story :( but i really think that youve just got to be honest with this girl! she seems as if shed really understand and that shed appreciate to know what yer uptake on the whole situation is! you really neva know what will happen until you talk to her about it. would it be really worth going into yet another long distance relationship especially when yer so close to bein in uni and meetin soo many new people? il be on the same boat as you in september and im hoping to make so many new friends. is there much point in going in with a long distance relationship for the possibility that yous could end up cheatin? just tell her that maybe in a few years when youve finished uni and that but for now youd be better as friends! :)xo*
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (30 April 2008):
Just be honest with her.
Tell her you really like her but you can't get involved because of the distance. Do it soon before anything serious happens between you.
Plus at uni you will have no money to visit her and no time as you will be so busy and meeting so many new people.
Tell her you want to stay friends and maybe in a few years after uni a good job may come up for you where she lives, or she may move to where you are.
I'm a strong believer in the "if it's meant to be it will be" school of thought.
You may go to uni and the realise none of the girls there are anywhere near as good as your facebook friend, and decide the long distance thing is going to be worth it.
Just be honest and don't mess her about.
Good Luck!! xx
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