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writes:my gf and i have been dating for 16 months and she met his guy a few days ago a her summer theatre thing an now he wont stop bgging her about a kiss and a couple days ago he stared tuching her like on the waist and butt and this pissed me off. i came before they had practice and told him that if he touched her again or kept bugging her id beat his ass into the ground and he said he would stop. then i told my gf i talked to him and she got mad at me and wouldnt talk to meu until half way through her pactice when she told me he kissed her but she pulled back when he did so i went back walked int the theatre found him grabbed him by the collar and slammed him into the wall and he fell over onto the floor and then the principal come in and convince me to not to anything else. he had the three of us sit and talk an my gf admitted she lied and she let kim kiss her and she said she did it to stay friends with him. that made me feel so bad i felt like she didnt care about me at all even though she says she loves me so much and that she never wants to hurt me but her actions dont epress that. this isnt th first time something like this has happened she said she kisses some of her guy friends on the cheek. i might be overreacting but that doesnt sound like somthing a gf should do. and she almost left me for a diferent guy she just met becuse she wanted to know what he was like. thathur a lot. it took a while to get over it and i felt little rejected. this is the worst and it really hurts to know that my gf kissed another guy an knew exactly what she was doing and it makes me feel like im not important at all. when we were talking she just broke out sobbing and i had to hug her. what shopuld i do? should i give her another chance or break up? i love her very much. Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn +, writes (20 June 2010):
 I won't say if you should leave or not. Her behavior, kissing someone so they will remain friends? What if he wanted more than just a kiss for friendship? I really don't buy the excuse allowing to remain friends. That just doesn't sound realistic.
It's up to you if you give her another change. If she continues falling to temptation, she may not be the right one for you.
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reader, winkie16 +, writes (20 June 2010):
winkie16 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe says she loves me all the time and other than the things I already mentioned she hasn't done anything else wrong and she always seems to want to be with me. But no matter what I do it's still going to hurt for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): Unfortunatey, I hate to say this to you because you sound nice, but shes just not the girl for you. I used to be just like her, craving attention, and while I liked the boy I was with, I figured it wouldnt matter if I kissed someone else. I figured, he'll still stay with me so this is okay. Obviously, that line of thinking is both highly immature and unloving. While she says she loves you, she cannot know what love is, or she would not act that way. I love my fiance and while, yes, I do find other men attrctive and like that I could get attention, I CHOOOSE NOT TO. I love him and thats all that matteres. They ask me out and I say, Im sorry Im so in love with my fiance. They say, ell he wont know, I say no. I may even want to kiss them, but I immediatly think of him and how much I love kissing him. Hes always worth more.
Basically, Im saying that if she loved you, she would feel that you were worth throwing the other mans attentions away. Dont wait for her to grow up, she'll never have a grown up relationship with you now that shes had a childish one with you. Im sorry, but from experience, thats true. She'll only fall into her old ways.
Dump her and find happiness in yourself. You have to love yourself enough to know that your worth more than that.
Good luck.
and know that when your lonely and want her after shes gone, that these feelings will eventually dampen and youll find being single to be much better
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Move on...you don't need a girlfriend like that.
I wouldn't be shocked if she slept with another either.
You deserve better!
Good luck!
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (19 June 2010):
 What is a relationship? A GOOD relationship is mainly defined by how it makes you feel. Do you feel loved; do you feel respected; are you happy? It doesn't sound like it. It seems like this girl thinks she has you on lock...and she keeps toying with you. MOVE ON! You deserve better! You deserve someone that appreciates and loves you just you do to her. So if I were you I'd leave this relationship and find someone that cares about you and make you happy. Good luck
-A.E
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reader, lah mouw +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Only you can decided whether to break up or give her another chance. But like you said this isn't the first time she's been deceitful. You have to decide whether giving her another chance is worth the hurt she might possibly cause you in the future. In a relationship trust is everything... So you have to think about whether you still really trust her or not. If you do decide to give her another chance, you need to make it known that what she's been doing isn't okay, and a lot of things need to change.
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reader, haven  +, writes (19 June 2010):
You love her I don't think that a girl who loves you especially a 'girlfriend' can do that to someone she loves. I know that you've been together for quite a long time but I think that you deserve better than her. She's lucky to have someone like you. You're great for fighting for you
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