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writes:Hi. I've been with my fiancee for 4 months. We're more like high school sweethearts. The only problem I have is her ex. She keeps in touch with her ex up to this day. She had an intimate relationship with him for 3 years. She broke up with him a year ago because he cheated on her several times sexually. Till this day he doesn't like me because I will get married to her. The mother of the ex took her in as her daughter because she had problems her mother. She says he is family because his mother took her in. Anyways, he manipulates her, disrespects her, lies to her, and invades her privacy. She even tells me she trusts him. When we get married she wants to still keep him and talk to him. She says when we have kids they will meet him also. I don't want my kids to see him. Her real father past away and I am deeply sorry that had to happen, but on the day of our marriage she said that her ex will be walking her down the aisle. All about this relationship with her ex is not right. I need your help. Thank you.
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (2 November 2008):
 I can understand why this is hard for you in many ways. However, some people, just stay close to there exes, I know many people who are still friends with theres, though none have ever done what he's done to your fiancee. I guess even after everything, she still believes they can be friends, which is nice, but must be awkward for you. If his mother took her in, then they were probaly friends before they got together, and after they broke up, decided to remain friends because of how close she was with his family. You could try talking to her about it, but don't judge or anything, you just want to know why, if you don't want to talk to her about it, then don't worry, you obviously trust that everything will work out. Her ex will not like you because you are going to marry the woman he was with for 3 years, but he'll move on, and don't worry, she wouldn't be marrying you if she didn't love you, so stop worrying about her ex, and enjoy life with you're fiancee soon to be wife, and make it the best it could possibly be. Thats all I can say really.
Congratulations by the way!
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