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*eather1
writes:My boss gave a female cowoker 'blocked days' off that were forbidden to the rest of us..A manager refused to give her those days. Then she asked the head manager, who gave her anything. Even the better work schedule. She's newer than most of us. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2015): I am a boss and I employ waitresses. I work so hard to keep my business afloat and I am a chef so I spend alllllll day alone in a kitchen cooking and preparing food. So when the waitresses come in its like my social life too.
I am secretly involved with this employee now but for 10 months she was just a pipe dream.. I gave her special treatment because I fancied her and she fancied me. I would make her a better meal than everyone else. we would stay behind and drink wine.. all the others just wanted to come to work and go home and do thier job collect a paycheck and be done... this one was different. she makes sacrafices for my business and she is my number 2...
The moral of the story is.. your boss is human... he likes this girl.. she maybe is the favourite. get over it or find another job
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 July 2015):
 Heather, obviously you believe your co-worker is getting preferential treatment. As we don't know anything about your workplace nor about your own work performance, perhaps the best thing you can do, if you want similar treatment, is to ask your manager or the head manager for what you want.
Document all your interactions with your manager and the head manager, just in case this does turn out to be a case of preferential treatment.
Read your employment contract and go over your performance reviews. Then see your contact in HR, or your union rep.
She's not a new employee and she is good at your job, based on your post here. So there's a chance she's developed a good relationship with the head manager and has 'earned' special treatment. Again, it all depends on the workplace, your contract, etc. What you've provided is the bare minimum of information here.
We have no way of knowing why she seems to have received preferential treatment. Perhaps it's times you took a look at your own performance, dust off the resume and get a job in a place where no one is ever treated differently than anyone else, despite being an awesome employee.
And to go back to the very first question asked by eyeswideopen, have you asked the head manager for blocked days off and the better work schedule for yourself? If not, why not?
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reader, molliejay  +, writes (6 July 2015):
 special treatment?
In a working environment, there will always be people who get treated better than others, FACT.
Think of the positive's, she has now made it easier for you to get the time of. ("but you gave that other girl the time of..")
If your that worried than write to head office and explain the situation.
Take care,
Mollie Jay
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reader, Heather1 +, writes (6 July 2015):
Heather1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's not related. She barely even talks to the managers or anyone.It even took her a while to ask for the dates. She said she was afraid the would all say no. They did, except for the higher manager. Who was the one who started giving her the better shifts.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 July 2015):
 She might BE getting special treatment. She might excel at brown nosing OR excel at her work which have gained her the extra shifts.
Is she by any chance related to one of the bigger bosses? Or a friend of a friend?
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reader, Heather1 +, writes (6 July 2015):
Heather1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIdk...some people thinks she gets special treatment. She even has more shifts to work. And the managers speaks highly of her
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (6 July 2015):
 Interesting Question, because it points out one of the differences between men and women. Men are less prone to worry about What everyone else is getting. With female employees a boss has to be careful that if he gives something to one he gives something to all.
There are 2 possibilities that come to mind as an employer. One prior arrangement that the manager was unaware of. and 2 The new employee isn't working out and it doesn't matter whether she woors this weekend as she will be let go on manday anyway.
Who knows. It could be as sinister as you think but it is probaby a much simpler reason.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2015): If it wasn't for one of the reasons previously mentioned it could be because the head manager, having less idea about the running of your dept, said yes to get her out of his office as he had more important things to worry about. It's probably not a big deal to him as he doesn't have to cover for her does he?I'll be honest. I've been working for over 30 years now and I've never worked anywhere where people were all treated equally. There's always someone being carried, someone off sick all the time with nothing said, someone that gets what they want. It's the same everywhere. It's often the hardest working, most capable people that get the least leeway. I'm a manager and there are some people I depend on way more than others.You and your colleagues should take advantage of this and use her example as a way of getting blocked days off yourselves, after all they've set a precedent haven't they? It's much more difficult for them to say no now.
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reader, Heather1 +, writes (6 July 2015):
Heather1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe is not newin the sense of "new" or just started. She is very very good at the job. There is no contract for those dates. She was originally declined when she asked, until she asked him, the "big"guy. She was even scared to ask any of them. And its not just ghe request for these dates. Its in general "he", and not the other managers, bend over for her.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 July 2015):
Could have been part of her contract. I know in one of the jobs I had, I got certain weeks off in summer as my family had made plans for a huge family bash in the Mediterranean, and there was no way I was going to miss that.
Or it could be even simpler, SHE asked. Or... SHE asked first.
What is the reason some days have been blocked? Important order going out? If that is the case, SHE is new and there for not VITAL for the operations to go smoothly. Easier to give her time off them try and train her in the middle of the "hot spot".
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2015): She's new, and may have already made arrangements for those days prior to starting the job and so they've had to accommodate her. Your age bracket suggests you have enough life experience behind you to know the old saying "you don't ask you don't get". She's either got the self confidence to make her point and negotiate what she needs, or she has genuine reasons for the work schedule and time off.
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reader, Heather1 +, writes (6 July 2015):
Heather1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFact is, she never made any prior arrangement to be off those days. Its not a medical reason. The managers told her that they could not grant her those dates. She just simply asked the main boss and got it just like that.
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reader, jls022 +, writes (6 July 2015):
How new is she? If she's very new there's a chance she made arrangements before starting this job and the manager is trying to be fair and accommodate those. She may have exceptional circumstances that you don't know about, or she may have been the only one with the nerve to ask. Are these days that you wanted off yourself, or are you just annoyed that she got them at all?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 July 2015):
 Not much to go on here but one question comes to mind, Have you asked the head manager for blocked days off and the better work schedule for yourself?
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