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age
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anonymous
writes:Hi all. I am a guy of 32,I have been speaking to a girl of 25 for the past seven weeks whom I met online. We have met up and get on brilliantly. She is funny and beautiful. Me being me, I can't get out of my head something she said when we started talking. She said "You are shorter than my usual type but are really good looking". Of course, I focus on the negative part of that sentence. Also,whenever I whatsapp her and I pay her a compliment or mention anything about us moving forward she just completely blanks it and changes the subject. I have been hurt many many times in the past and I would hate for this to happen again. Do I just cut my losses now or do I stick it out or do I just talk to her about it?
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (7 July 2015):
 Cut you losses. Her message is loud and clear.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (7 July 2015):
Cut you losses. Her message is loud and clear.
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reader, molliejay +, writes (6 July 2015):
 Hi,
when you explain you would like to mover futher...do you mean getting married? sex? living together? owning a cat?
7 weeks, the relationship is still very new! Slow down, the beginning of the relationship is always the best!
For her to mention your height is very offensive, i'm sure she wouldn't like it if you commented on her body "I normally date thinner girls but your still very good looking" Not nice is it?
Your still young, live a little, have fun!
Love is one of the best things on this universe, but you cant force it on somebody.
Be patient, the perfect girl will come around the corner before you know it.
Take care,
Mollie Jay
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 July 2015):
 I guess it depends on what you mean by moving forward. Do you mean dating exclusively? Do you mean sex?
You say you have met up. So once? If only once I'd say you need to slow your horse and start arranging more dates "face to face" instead of using various "apps" to get to know her.
Getting on "brilliantly" doesn't mean you are a great match. It just means that when you met in person there was chemistry.
But if I were you I might, consider looking elsewhere - the whole " I usually date taller" I'd find insulting. There was no need to point out that you are "shorter" than her usual type. To me that sounds like she hasn't stopped looking. If she felt like YOU were it, she would not have pointed that out. IMHO.
And GO slow, GET to know a girl - don't over think everything. There is no DEADLINE here for when things should progress. There should be no SET schedule.
You get hurt, I think because you jump in with both legs (which honestly I don't think is entirely a bad thing) But you don't really know what you want.
Maybe, you should also consider someone a little older than 25? A little more... mature?
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