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anonymous
writes:My girlfriend texts me continuously throughout the entire day, I wouldn't mind it as much but the stuff she says is completely pointless and is a play by play of her day. Things like I'm leaving for New York, I'm in New York, oh wait no we're not. I have told her to take it easy, but fails to make any effort to change. Its getting to the point everything she does annoys me. I have thought about dumping her but we have been together for some time now so I am hesitant to do so. Is about time to dump her and move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Sounds as if she needs alot more attention and affection from you. Look at your relationship and think about how much you talk, the things you talk about and weather you get into 'real' conversations? She's crying out for you to ask her about her day and to take an interest in her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): My boyfriend tells me everything ok?. . I don't see anything wrong with that. . .i tell him everything am doing and he does same. .
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reader, absolutelyinsane  +, writes (13 November 2010):
Let her know her behaviour is irritating you. If she gets mad over that, leave her. If anything, she should be the one to change this aspect of her. You've always got a choice. And if you truly care about her, you'll just let it be. But if it bothers you that much, let her know. Wishing you all the best :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): If you can't be straight with your girlfriend over a simple issue like this then you should juast cal it quits now. Why are you blaming your girlfriend for you lack of communication skills shortcoming? Your the doomer and she the doomee. She's putting out and you're holding out. The problem is you not her.
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reader, rivi +, writes (13 November 2010):
Well are you getting anything out of this relationship other than annoying texts ?
Eg great sex and if so how often ?
Do you even reply to the texts ? If you do that will keep 'em coming so don't.
Only you can balance the positive and negative aspects of this relationship and decide which there are more of : make your decision accordingly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): ~DEJA VU~
I used to be that way with my recent ex, as I was the one doing the texting...and effective with the date she dumped me I immediately stopped the behavior, as the only person I was doing to to was her and ironically the first and only person I had ever behaved that way with. There were numerous reasons for which I exhibted this behavior although the primary reasons was because I felt like I needed to prove my sincere interest in her.
Believe it or not toward the end I was burned out with my excessive texting to her, because it was soooooo fricken time consuming but I didn't want her to think I didn't care.
She and I are recently back in contact and I'm hoping that she doesn't expect the same texting behavior from me, because it would cause me unnecessary stress. If she expects this behavior from me and confronts me, I will be very honest with her and let her know that she should by no means interpret my lack of texting as a sign of disinterest.
My preference is to just chill and let it flow naturally.
I have too much going on in my life to just sitting around texting every detail.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 November 2010):
 You have thoughts about dumping her over her play by play texts? Why when you can just ignore them. If you're already thinking of dumping her then you must have not been that into her in the first place...or you're trying to find a reason to dump her and any petty one will do. By all means dump her if she gets on your nerves that much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Thats a question you must ask yourself. Like can you live happy without her. Does she make you happy? Is she just driving you mad?
She seems like a nice happy girl, and wants you to be part of her life. Just be kind when and if you decide to dump her.
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