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writes:So there's this guy that's incredibly sweet to me, treats me like no one has ever treated me, and there's no question that he loves me and all my flaws unconditionally. The problem is I can't seem to actually love him back. We have so much in common, and I don't have any reason NOT to like him, but I can't seem to bring myself to.At the beginning of our relationship I liked him a lot and he gave me 'butterflys' all the time, we did everything together including sex (My first time). I could say without hesitation that I loved him, but that love soon died out. He still loves me I know, and he'd never be one to cheat on me or treat me badly, but I just can't bring myself to love him. Why is this? When I think about him in he seems PERFECT for me in every way, but my heart seems to disagree. Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (13 November 2010):
 The heart wants what it wants. And while this guy is safe, you just don't have passion with him. It would be much better to hold out for someone who really gets you going rather than the guy who is great on paper. He may be a great guy, and you may be a great girl, but you might just not be made for each other. If you just aren't into him, there is nothing you can do but try to force your heart to change it's mind (unlikely).
Move on and find true happiness elsewhere. Good luck!
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reader, absolutelyinsane  +, writes (13 November 2010):
It's simple. Don't go for it. One day you'll find someone you'll go crazy over. And that's what makes 'love' worth it. If you don't want him, then you don't need it. Wish you all the best.
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reader, angelbaby92 +, writes (13 November 2010):
sometimes you just can't choose who you love...it may seem like they're just perfect for you but maybe it just isn't meant to be..and if you know you feel this way you have to let him know so you don't hurt him. i hope everything goes well with you
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): ~DO THE RIGHT THING~
What you are doing is so very selfish and cruel. Inform him immediately in a very caring tactful manner and exit his life immediately for his benefit, being certain to inform him that you are exiting to allow him distance to heal. Do not continue misleading him. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot?
Do the right thing.
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