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writes:i am fourteen years old and i want to lose my virginity to a guy that i really like and he likes me to and i am totally confertable with him. i'm just not to sure i'm ready for the pain of it. I have given oral sex before to two guys and i have done pretty much everyone except sex. This guy is my life buut he doesn't want to go out he wants to wait but we are madly inlove with eachother. I totally trust him. what happens if i bleed what should i do? and what happens if the condom breaks or something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): It is illegal to have sex at 14. Don't do it. Wait until you are at least of the legal age and are 100 percent ready to lose your virginity to someone you love. If you have sex now you will regret it, especially if you end up a single underaged mum with an STD.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (28 July 2007):
 Firstly its is illegal for you to have sex at your age,
Also hink about your future as you will proberly regret it later on in life.
And i alwasy say if you are not 100% sure about having sex for the first time, dont do it.
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reader, melodaea +, writes (28 July 2007):
 What no-one seems to have mentioned is that it's illegal for you to have sex if you're under 16.
If this boy is your life, and he is willing to wait then PLEASE wait until you're 16.
You don't always bleed though- if you've worn tampons, or you horseride, or have had "exploring" hands, the hymen may already be broken.
As for the pain, the exhilaration of your first time will more often than not keep the adrenaline pumping. If you're ready for sex, you'll be far too excited to notice the pain, trust me. ;)
Mail me if you want to talk further,
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reader, possma  +, writes (28 July 2007):
 Hi Love - I remember so much being your age mate and the things our hormones do to us! If you wish to be true to yourself - I would take a long deep breath and step back from the situation. When the time is right, you'll not have to ask anyone - but you'll know it in yourself! I was nearly 18 and even then I believe now that I probably did the wrong thing!
What I remember is thinking 'what the hell was that all about?' lol When you get someone who is 'just the one', you won't have those thoughts.
Please don't let him make you believe that if you don't - you never will!
If you do get (randy!) lol - maybe buy yourself a little personal vibrator - they can be fun and you won't have to worry about having a 'vibrating baby'!!!
On a more serious note, please please, take a good look at the situation and weigh up the pros and cons. Even write down "Fors" and "Againsts".
Possma
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): I mean,obv you are underage but you are your own person and make your own decision.
If you def want to here is my advice.
Visityour local family planning clinic and start the pill.(trust me,you will enjoy sex so much more without the worrys).
Also make sure condoms are used as this helps cover against STD's.
As for the pain and bleeding ~
Has he fingered you before ? if so, he might of already broken your hymen (which is why sex at first can hurt and cause bleeding)
If you do bleed, dont worry.It is totally natural and beleive me, the pain is over exagerated, its nothing honest, its more uncomfortable really.
Hope allgoes well chick
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (28 July 2007):
 Hey hunni,
If you are definetly sure you want to have sex first thing I think you should do is think about protection you want to use. You can go on the pill or get the lad to wear a condom or both.
If you bleed it should only be a tiny bit and barely noticeable, if you worried about the lad seeing. It's nothing to worry about and should stop as quick as it started.
If the condom breaks then I would get the morning after pill as soon as you can. If you are that worried it will then I would get yourself on the pill as a form of back up.
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