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*herubrum
writes:Hello. I am 32 and have been involved with a 22 year old woman who's marriage has been pretty bad. We have grown close to each other and she tells me she wants to be in an open relationship with me. We have only been physical a few times and Im ok with the fact she wants to sleep with other men, because I knew this going in. But now she has asked my permission to have "meaningless sex" with my brother. I tried to explain to her how that would hurt me and that I was fine with her wanting other men, but family was off limits. How do I get through to her on this. We care for each other but she says that me saying no has hurt her some. I just feel she doesn't understand where im coming from. Would appreciate any insights on this subject. Thank You Reply to this Question
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reader, TimmD +, writes (19 March 2010):
 Yeah, it's not the brother's fault in this case. She's just trying to get what she wants without respecting what YOU want. Without knowing too many details, is her marriage bad solely because of her husband or could she be partly to blame? I only ask because this behavior she is showing you might be a pattern she has with past relationships.
I'm not going to flat out tell you "Leave her now!"... but this really could be a sign of things to come. If you mean that much to her then she should respect your wishes - and I would tell her that.
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reader, cherubrum +, writes (18 March 2010):
cherubrum is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell my brother doesn't know she wants to do this i feel if i were to tell him to not do it i would hope he would respect me not to do so.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 March 2010):
Dump her right now. She's married, yet she's cheating with you and other men, and even wants to do it with your brother. 100% get rid of her now.
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reader, cousins  +, writes (18 March 2010):
to be honest you cannot expect her to be open withother guys then get mad if she is wanting to get with your brother. the person you should be mad at is your brother for giving her the idea that he would actually have sexual relations with her. your brother should respect you enough and never do it.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (18 March 2010):
It sounds like she's making her own needs more important then yours. If she cares about you then she should honor your wishes. There are plenty of other guys out there for her. I would proceed with caution.
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