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writes: Alright this is kind of long question, so there is this girl i had met at university who i really liked and coincidentally she lived in the room next to mine in residence so we got to know one another by the end of the year and for most of the school year she had a boyfriend which was ok because i didn't realize i liked her until the latter half of the year, so about the end of March she mentioned that she and her boyfriend had broken up but from what i gathered she didn't seem too upset about it (i could be wrong though). Anyway once she told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend i really wanted to ask her out but i didn't for a number of reasons 1) we were close to final exams 2) i was worried that she only saw us as friends because we had walked to class together sometimes (just the two of us) and i would usually ask her if she wanted to join my roommate and i for dinner if i saw her sitting alone.Anyway here is my problem, we had been in contact during the summer and i was preparing to ask her out when school starts in september and i just found out that she now has a new boyfriend but i still have feelings for herSo my question is this, how can i avoid being put in the friend zone with her and ultimately do i still have a chance or is she gone?Any help is greatly appreciated, Thanks
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (18 August 2011):
Thanks for the follow up. OK, but don't hang around being a friend hoping she might be interested. When you get back to Uni, look out for opportunities with other girls. This will happen and get to know them. In my experience, friends with girls you fancy really sucks. That's why it is important you look around at other girls or you will miss out on really exciting opportunities. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks guys i really appreciate the advice and i guess i will settle with the fact that we can still be really good friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): Forget her mate, you're just delaying your recovery. Talk to girls, find a nice one that really likes you.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (17 August 2011):
I think its a miss opportunity and its hard dating a friend. Let this go b4 you get hurt and lose a friend.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (17 August 2011):
Hello,
I believe you posted on here earlier a couple of weeks ago about this. At the time you didn't know if she had a boyfriend and you were going to keep the contact going during the summer. Well, due to the change that she now has a boyfriend, I would leave well alone now. She had a boyfriend, then was single, now has another boutfriend. If she was interested, she would have waited for you. I'm afraid she isn't for you.
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