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writes: dear cupid,in my opinion, there's not really a whole lot that makes sense right now. buuut i'll try to make sure that this question isn't one of those things. i really hope that someone on here can help me out; this is absolutely tearing me apart, and i want nothing more than just to fix it.my boyfriend (craig*) and i met back in march and started dating in april. after about a week of officially being a couple, we broke up--not because we wanted to, but because of circumstances that were beyond our control. his ex-girlfriend found out that she was pregnant, and he went back to her to try and make things work soo that their baby could have a proper family.apparently, though, success wasn't in the cards for them. after she cheated on him with her ex, stole his truck, and did some other equally-horrible stuff in may, craig came back to me, and we started talking again. we were officially back together by june...and shortly after that, i lost my virginity to him.since we started talking again, things have been going absolutely PERFECT...until now. last friday, craig admitted to me that he isn't as happy as he was before. i keep asking him why, but all he ever says is, "i don't know." he uses that as a response to everything--whether or not we're breaking up, when i can come see him soo that we can talk about this, what i'm doing wrong...you get the idea.the thing that gets me is that he says that he still loves me as much as he did before. if that's really true, then why isn't he trying his absolute hardest to fix this??? he says that he wants to, but then, when i actually try to get him to talk about it, he won't do it for more than just a few short text messages. this is absolutely killing me, and even though he says that it's killing him, too...i feel like he doesn't really even care.i've confided in my mom and one of my cousins about this, and the two of them seem to think that he may be depressed. i can understand that...because back in june, his ex-girlfriend lost their unborn son, and it took a pretty big toll on him. my mother has been through losing three children herself, and she seems to think that it's very plausible for him to be depressed about that...and for that depression to be causing him to feel that he's not happy in our relationship like he used to be.do you think that my mom and cousin are right...or is craig seriously just unhappy in our relationship??? and what can i do to get to the bottom of this??? any help is greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): Hi. I do think your mum and cousin are absolutely right. He may actually be grieving at this moment in time, and nothing you say or do will help this situation. He has to go through this process to come out stronger.
It also seems you both may have got into this relationship too fast after he broke up with his ex?? (Not sure as can only go by what I am reading). He probably hasn't got over his ex, even though she has done nasty things to him. I'm sure he loves you but think he may be hurting at the moment.
Maybe at this present time you both should cool it off, give each other space and time for thinking. And hey, if your meant to be together love will always find a way. Good Luck!
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