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writes: She has a boyfriend but wants me aswell wat do i doI posted a question a while back explaining that i like this girl but she has a boyfriend and the advice you all gave me was brilliant but recently she has been sending me dirty messages ( some from her boyfriends phone cause she aint got n e credit) we seen each other today and she was all over me but is still with her boyfriend i spoke to her and said look you got a boyfriend you cant be doing this and her answer was he wont know. i dont want to turn round and say well choose him or me cause i dont want to completly lose her wat do i do please HELP!!!!!
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 She needs to choose whether she likes it or not, cannot have you both. Not fair on any of you.
You need to take the risk of loosing her because you really do not have her anyway. In reality you cannot loose someone who you do not have.
Talk to her and ask her what/who she wants. You may get hurt in the end if you allow this to carry on further as your emotions deepen.
good luck
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reader, x.Helpful.Cupid.x +, writes (16 January 2007):
 Hiya.
I think you have to draw the line with this one. Shes obviously playing a game and its not right. She has to decide if she wants you, or this other guy. If she chooses you, great, just remember to be careful, or if she chooses the other guy, then move on, i understand you like her, but shes a tricky one by the sounds of it. And also, there will be plenty more that will be intrested!
Good luck
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): You need to keep well away from this one. If she will do this to her boyfriend then she will do it to you. If she finishes with her bf then you could be the person she is dishonest with in the future. Don't be dragged down into this net. Go out and get yourself a gf that is completely free. She isn't worth your time and effort.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): I think Irish49 is very right dear, if she want your friendship with her and you too really want your friendship with her, than go ahead I tell her to stop her friendship with that guy before you go out with her, and if she refused, than forget about her...
Hope this helps.
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 I have to agree with Irish on this one. This girl sounds like one you DO want to loose. If you think for a moment that entering in a relationship with you is going to change this dishonet behavior, you are beig dishonest to yourself. Why would you welcome this in to your life? What could you possibly "like" about her... her true character is shining through and I am surprised that it is taking us pointing it out for you to notice it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): Egads..I have to ask. Why do you even want such rude, dishonest girl in your life, that would blatantly use her boyfriend's phone, to send you, dirty messages, dear? Doesn't her behaviours make you wonder about her shortcomings as in: maturity, her ethics, her character? Be honest with her and stop sounding desperate and needy. If you want to go out with her, you tell her she dumps the bf first, and goes out with you...no one else. But just fully understand what you are signing on for. If she's doing this to him...she will do it to you...someday.
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