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writes:My girlfriend (who was a virgin before I met her) and me had sex for the time first. Well it was great when I'd to take off her bra she slap my hand away and she got really mad at me because she doesn't like when I touch her breasts. Then I talked her about she got red and change the topic. What going on? Also I sort of pressure her into this but I regret it now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): You have to realize that women have a lot of issues and you will never understand them. Next time she'll probably let you touch her chest but then will smack your hands away when you try and have sex. Also, if they have small boobs they'll complain that they are too small. If they're too big they'll complain that they're too big.Get used to the confusion!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): To be honest I think its a bit harsh to say you pressured her into it coz if she agreed to have sex with you it's not surprising that you thought it was ok to touch her breasts as that's kinda part of the whole naked sex thing normally! Don't get me wrong, im not saying its your right to but i can understand what made u think it was ok unless she had said otherwise so i can see why you're a bit like wtf! I agree that if she is embarrassed about it just don't bring it up again unless she does. Don't touch them unless she invites you too as you now know that she has a problem with it, i think she could have told you in a better way though, its a bit like mixed signals. I'm sure as you get to know each other and have done it a few more times she will become more comfortable with you seeing her body, just take it at her pace for now x
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reader, pebble  +, writes (18 June 2009):
 If you pressured her when she wasn't ready then what do you expect?
Everyone has hang ups about their body and it takes A LOT on inner strength to finally trust someone enough to show them the bits that you are embarrassed about. It's a proccess that takes a while.
You pressured her into doing something before she reached the point where she was comfortable enough with you. You've lost her trust and have to find a way to build it back again.
Don't bring up sex again, let her bring it up. DON'T even think about pressuring her again unless you want her to remember you for the rest of her life as the guy that didn't care enough to wait until she was ready.
Lots of grovelling for you.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (18 June 2009):
 well you shouldn't pressure her at all maybe that's why she doesn't like you doing that.
also she maybe a bit concious about her boobs and is afraid of what you'll think of them maybe she finds them ugly or something and thinks you'll feel the same way.
just talk to her about it but DON'T pressure her it's not the way to go hun.
come on be a gentleman about it and just talk to her about it. she probably is scared or something because you've said you pressured her.
Hope this helps :)
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