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writes: Me and my partner have been together for three years off and on. We argue because she flirts with guys. She is possesive, she tries to control everything I do. I normally start drinking, as am an alcoholic. I go to mum's and then stop drinking, start sorting my life out and so does she. Then we get back together and things go wrong again. Is it time to quit? We do love each other so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): this is a good qeustion well done
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2005): Sounds like to me you two bring the worst out in each other, so if that's the case then you guys need to part your own ways. Try to find someone that bring the best out in you, makes you want to strive to be a better person on the inside. Or maybe you guys just like all the drama and maybe you think that is the way a relationship should be. Well if you think that then you are wrong. Just end it now and stop wasting time because you could of already met the right one by now.
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reader, msmcllstr +, writes (25 April 2005):
It seems as if your relationship is stuck in a rut and both of you need to sort out what the real problems are. If you both do better without each other then maybe its time you called it a day.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (25 April 2005):
 It seems almost as if you are feeding off each others bad habits and have got into a rut, a kind of vicious circle. You need to find ways to break this. It strikes me that you both could do with some outside help. Have you considered couple counselling? You would be able to investigate the reasons why you both do what you do. You could do with some individual help with your alcoholism while your girlfriend needs assistance with her insecurity as this appears to be her main problem.It may not be time to quit but you do need to find the answers as to why you both do what you do.You could both sit down and explain to each other how you are feeling. Ask her why she feels the need to flirt with other guys and be so controlling. Does she feel she is getting enough from the relationship, does she feel loved? You need to also ask yourself why you feel compelled to drink as this obviously won't help matters.In essence, what you need to do is realise the reasons for both of your actions before you can work on changing them.I hope this helps.
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