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writes: I went out with this guy for a year and we were very close, but then we started to have problems and we broke up. I was devastated! I stayed in my room and cried A LOT! But one of my guy friends was there for me and I went out with him two weeks after me and the other guy broke up.Me and the new guy went out for two months but I just broke up with him because I'm scared of getting too close and getting hurt again. He said he didn't think it was right that we broke up but if he can't have me as a girlfriend he will still have me as a good friend. Today he asked me if I would ever get over being scared and come back to him, and he's been nothing but sweet to me! Do I take the chance of getting hurt again?
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reader, PrncssJoanne +, writes (25 April 2005):
There's always the risk of being hurt when you start dating someone. Love itself is a risk because if it doesn't work out, it can hurt terribly. What you need to ask yourself, is would you rather live your life alone, or take the risk of being hurt and possibly be happy with this new guy who seems great. Yeah, you might get hurt again but you might not. It's definitely worth the risk, and it sounds like this guy really cares about you. So I'd say go for it.
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reader, joloucam +, writes (25 April 2005):
Yes, take the chance. I've spent the past 18 months avoiding any kind of intimacy and it's cost me some great guys who I really liked and who treat me really well.My advice is, go for it. Sometimes we get hurt (and trust me, I know) but the harder we try to stop ourselves getting hurt, the more it will happen. Its a self fulfilling prophecy. So take the risk. At worst, you're going to get hurt but you will get over that in time. But at best, he could be the best thing that ever happened to you.
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reader, msmcllstr +, writes (25 April 2005):
Not all relationships end up the same. Sometimes you have to take a chance and see what happens. If you go into a relationship thinking you're going to get hurt then you will not give your 100% self into it. Rrelax and enjoy yourself because you never know, love might be waiting for you!
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reader, Kmoney18 +, writes (25 April 2005):
To tell you the truth I am going through the same issue with a girl I like. You have to ask yourself these questions, what if you could never have the old guy back, then what would you do? would you move on? or would you just keep looking for the one chance to take him back? (which could be a long time) Love is a strong feeling, and I know how it can ruin someones heart, but also you cant keep letting the past bottle up inside, otherwise it could effect the way you handle yourself in the future.so to answer your question. At least give the guy a chance, if he hasnt hurt you in those 2 months, chances are he wont hurt you in the future either.Hope everything works out for ya!
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