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writes:I want to know why she is ignoring my calls, yesterday we were together and had a good time, we made out and she flirted with me the whole time etc etc, so she seemed to be into me... when i left i kissed and told her i'd call today (we talk on the phone everyday, she always picks up) but whenever i call she doesn't answer.she won't answer me on the computer either, and i know she has her phone with her. i also know one of her ex's wanted to hang out with her tonight.Do you think she's cheating or is there another reason she'd be ignoring me like this?thanks
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reader, penta  +, writes (25 August 2007):
 Standing you up isn't very nice. I would write this one off. Give her some space, and if she comes around you can ask her. If she doesn't, you're not missing anything worthwhile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso, I forgot to add we were supposed to go on a date yesterday. Which is the main reason I'm annoyed by this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalright so it wasn't very much... normally i wouldnt consider it cheating either, but it felt more than just a 1 night hook-up, toboth of us i'm pretty sure.And we were goig to go further but her mother was getting home very soon so we didn't want to risk it.anyhow, lately we've been talking for 4+ hours a day... she always calls me, and i know 100% she had her phone with her, and on msn i msg'd her, she even changed her msn name (so she was obviously on) but still didn't reply just signed off without saying hi or bye.do you think she's going to ignore my calls for good?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): Penta brings up an excellent point. Was the kissing a flirting the first time, you two got together? If it was, then you are definitely jumping the gun here, to be overly concerned as to whether she's cheating. Kissing and flirting does not turn into an exclusive relationship, just like that. Both parties have to agree to it. If she's playing the field and dating others, that is her right to do so. So stop being so territorial and claiming ownership on her, like this. That would be a scarey thing for her to deal with if she knew that you are thinking this way. She will turn tail and run. My suggestion is: Wait this out and be patient. If she's hanging out with her ex, there is nothing you can do about it. Get ahold of her another day and keep it light, fun and get to know her, better. Ask her out for a coffee and go slow. It all takes time to build, dear...good luck.
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reader, penta +, writes (24 August 2007):
Well, if you were only flirting & kissing then she's not "cheating" on you -- not enough of a relationship.
It could be a lot of things, anywhere from the phone battery is dead and she's away from the computer to she got scared about what happened yesterday and wants time to think.
You go throwing around words like "cheating" this early in the relationship and she's going to run off.
Let us know if there was more to it than your post suggests.
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