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male
age
36-40,
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writes:Since i said before that i like her a lot, i told her about my feelings and she replied to me that she doesn't have any feelings for me and she takes me as her best friend. If she had any feeling for me it would have been in the start of our realtionship. she says that she had been out with many guys and had dumped them because she thinks she gets bored with all of them very fast. i don't know what to do now, how should i make her realise of this love? she respects me a lot and told me that one day if i see her with some other guy i will think she is a slut or a kind.but i really don't think about her in this way. please help me out beacause i can't see her this way. she says she gets attracted to many guys without any reason and goes out with him. i love her a lot and can't think a single moment except her.what should i do now??? i have given almost six months for this realionship and now am able to get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): This woman doesn't care how you feel, she is only interested in her own feelings, which are wishy washy.
Your best picking up your bags and moving on, watching her disaperar in your rear view mirror. Don't continue this thinking unless you want to be an emotional wreck!
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reader, growing +, writes (8 May 2008):
 "Six months to this relationship",what relationship are you talking about??? she was never into it.it was all one way. in fact you should be thankful to her that she didn't fool around with you.she was quite clear about her attraction towards different guys.but yes sum1 has said that love is blind.inspite of knowing that she isn't trustworthy,loyal and can't be there for you through all yr life.you still fell for her.
just can't believe this !!why the hell you want to make your life miserable but then this is your choice.i think all this while you were just running after her,to get same care and attention in return and she was treating you just as her frd so now what i wud say is CALL OFF this frdship relation.In case, you two talk regularly over phone then avoid her call for 2-3 days if there are some hidden feelings which probabaly she herself is unaware then would definitly realise when you get distant and then you can take your relationship to a new dimension but if she acts normal then plzzzzzz LEAVE HER. this will hurt to the core but let it be.it is just a phase and you will get over it when you will meet sum1 deserving.just wait and this time make sure that you don't involve with a person who is clear from the beginning that she is there just to fool around with anyone to everyone.
Feeling very sorry but this is the best option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): If you have been waiting six months and she has told you she sees you as a friend, then she doesn't want a relationship with you. At least she is honest, which also says something about her.
Try to move on. It is hard when you like someone but she has warned you what she is like and if she did want a relationship you could get very hurt.
This may sound like a back-handed compliment, but maybe she values friends more than boyfriends. If you can cope with being friends only, maybe you will learn something that will be of value to you in the future.
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