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writes:i am 19 and 4 of my friends go to university. When they all come back we have a night out in the town. This happens about once or twice a month. My girlfriend hates me going to town and has told me this. She doesnt hardly drink and hates going to town herself, she says dreds to think what goes on, but i assure her no cheating etc happens. As soon as i mention im going to town she gets in a mood with me which i think is unfair. I dont know what to do? Stop going to town? Let my girlfriend deal with it?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 March 2010):
Don't stop going out with friends. This isn't your problem. You have't cheated, you're a good guy. This is about her insecurities. I would suggest you ask her why she feels so strongly about you not going out, and why she distrusts you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): her ex boyfriend cheated on her, so i can see where it has come from. But its literally once or twice a month i go to town. I know its going to be hard for her to trust anyone but i dont want to stop going out with friends but i love her so much so ive got to try and balance the two!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): Take that leash off man... She doesn't control your life and if she cant understand that you wanna go out and have fun without cheatin, then talk to her about it. Let her know for a fact you're not cheating and she needs to go out and do things herself.
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 Her mood stems from her point of view not being taken seriously.
The real question is what do you want to do? There should be a compromise at some point and you should be looking for it. If being with her is important to you may be you should restrict your outings to once a month.
Out and out telling her to deal with it simply tells her that you do not care what she thinks and will do what you want anyway. There is not a woman on this earth that will put up with that quietly for long.
Does your girlfriend have family or past boyfriend history about drinking that was a problem? There may be another explanation aside from just "I don't want you to do this."
Have you tried to level with her and find out what is really behind her feelings?
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