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writes:well i'm a 15 yr old guy. And i think i'm in love with this 14 yr old girl, she live's about 45 minute's away 4rm me. And i met her by a quincenera where i met her bestfriend, we dated, but didnt work out so i started tlkn to her. We've been tlkn 4 about 5 month's and dating 4 about 2 month's i kinda cheated on her once. But not sexually. Jus by callin another girl. Who happened to be her close friend. I had no idea. But now she's different and doesnt take me seriously when i tell her i love her. She doesnt believe it. How can i get her to love me again like she used to? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): Love is funny that way. It is all about trust. Girls once burned do not forgive easily. For one thing you are young and so is she. I am not saying that you don't know what love is. I am saying hormones are kind of ravaging your body right now, so you cheating on her probably cut her a lot deeper and a lot more irrationally than it would for an older person. You have to give her time to forgive you and truly let you back in. Truth is, she will never love you the same as she did. Women forgive, but we do not forget. You probably are incredibly sorry and you need to show her that. Set aside dignity and male pride, and let her into your naked heart. Let her in. It will speak volumes.
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reader, minnie_me  +, writes (28 March 2009):
you need to explain to her that its only her you love and that you would never cheat on her again. you need to show some commiment to her also and that may help. Good luck with everything!
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (28 March 2009):
you can understand where shes coming from, espically having heard it from the 'close friend' involved. the distance is already making her insecure and adding more strain to the relationship so sometimes youll have to see her point, shes goin to need constant reassurance so that she knows what you have is genuine and strong, everyone needs that stability and to know where they stand with a person. you cant get someone to change how they feel, shes feeling this way for a reason and as you cannot change the past rethink the future instead, plan what it is you want, be serious with her and talk to her honestly and openly.Although you didnt actually do anything major its obviously crushed the trust she had in you and to rebuild that will take time and effort if your willing to wait and adjust for her needs then go for it but dont go into it with half a heart. Make her believe you, if your words are true and really from the heart shes going to hear it! trust me its a girl thing. best of luck ps you admit on your question that your 15, yet your signed in as a female aged 26-29 it may be a tech glich but probs will affect answers, just to let you know. :)
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