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writes:Hello dear cupid,i'm new on this website so:i've been with my Gf for 3 years. i'm 23, and she is 22.The problem is that recently she asked me strange questions as: how many Gf did you sleep with, did they all give you blowjobs, did you like it.In fact i am her first real love,befor me she had 1 sex ârtner. Maybe next year we'll get married, and i really love her and asnwered those questions honestly.I told her i had 8 sex relationship,and only 1 Of them did me oral.And on the last question she didn't like the answer, in fact she thaught that i'm her "first oral partner" because in her oppinion oral sex is only between real love,trust etc....And now i'm scared that our sex life will go down, because with me she liked doing oral sex, and with me we've done couple of crazy things: we made it in public,shower,pool,in sauna every were where it is possible.Could it be possible that she will dislike oral sex after that? even if she laways tells me, she can't imagine our sex life without oral.Do you have any advice? i would really like some oppinions, bad or good one doesn't matter.Thank you
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reader, doom  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 lucky you :) not every girls could take such rational desicions =) take care
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reader, hameleon89 +, writes (30 December 2009):
hameleon89 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hello here i am again, well in fact i was too worried.Today my Gf told me the following words: " i thaught about that day and the asnwers that you told me, i was too immature to be angry on you.Because i know it was the past, and now i don't care, i know we are together and i know i'm the best and you love me, and i know also that with me you have the best relationship, sex.So screw the past and let's think about the futur"
Well ladies and gentlemen, i think those are GOlden words that a guy want's to here from his GF.Thank you for your answers.good luck everybody and a happy new year
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): *shrugs* Tell her, "You know, I've NEVER done anal." Great trust. :D No, but really.
What she is truly concerned about is that she loves you and you love her, but she feels like she's wasted her virginity on other men. And she saw oral sex as her ticket out of that mess, since she believed that neither of you two had done it. So it was "special", like virginity SHOULD have been.
Tell her that even if you had had oral sex with a million women before her, the ONLY time it has ever been trusting and special was when it was with her, since she is the ONLY one you have ever and will ever genuinely love.
I think that's the kind of commitment she's looking for.
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reader, dasonras  +, writes (30 December 2009):
I think it is safe to say that she is a bit insecure with herself. I'm sure if you consider her overall plersonality you'd be able to detect other insecurities.
People's insecurities tend to surface most when sex is thrown into the equation. You can't be in a more vulnerable situation than when you are having sex, so it is really easy for it to show.
For your sake, honesty is best, but don't ignore her feelings. Yes, like others have posted, she is immature. So you are going to have to deal with it together. Let her know that you are with her for a reason and that is what matters...not your past sexual history.
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reader, hameleon89 +, writes (30 December 2009):
hameleon89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers
I know that i should have told her, but she is such a person that wants to know.And i gave it a shot
satindesire= i told the SAME words to her as you wrote your last phrase! and even more i added:" i told you the truth,b/c i like and i want you to move forward, and think about us, and not about my past"
Starmonster888= of course i need your answers advice no matter what, positif or not, then why writting on this website, i can hear things that i want to hear from my family members.i ' tried a lot of things to improve our relationship and it worked, and constantly i'm doing it every time i can.If you have some ideas, i'll be very pleased to her it from you.
male reader, anonymous= yes she is like that, she thinks my old sex partners is normal but oral sex is like "great trust" i can't judge her it's her oppinion and i repsect and love her.But i think changing her oppinion will be useless, only doing something for her that after that she feels good will help, what do you think?
Do you think that i shouldn't explain to her more? i think i've done my best now, i'll try to be carriyng and "respect "about her thaughts about "my past sex".If have any ideas, or thaughts please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): Wow, time was, when oral was no big deal, and intercourse was for `serious' couples! Whatever happened to the good old days when a guy could get a bj just about anytime, but if he fucked anyone else, THEN he was in trouble?
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