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writes:My friend was telling me this story about him and it has made me a bit confused. He and his girlfriend had sex for the first time a few days ago. He asked her if she wanted to have sex (they were both sober) and asked her every now and then if she was ok and asked her she wanted to stop then say so. But afterwards when they finished she said, I shouldn't have done that, and is now going to charge him with rape.Will my friend now be charged because of the evidence from the story? I ask because if so it doesn't help in me looking for a girlfriend. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): The truth could be either way. You'll have to judge that based on the character of the two people.
The cops probably won't file charges if it shapes up to look like there was no forced sex at all.
It's hard to believe that she would want to file rape charges if it wasn't rape though. What good does that do her? It doesn't make her re-virginized and it does put her BF in jail. I don't see a lot to like about that. Not if she's sane anyway.
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reader, Raymond  +, writes (11 July 2008):
Women are always "crying rape", and cops are getting tired of it. Chances are, this woman will be told to grow up, and get a life. There's no chance of him being convicted under these circumstances. Take him out for a beer.
--Ray
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Usually after telling the police she has been raped, clothes and samples will be taken, she will be examined as well. Please remember your friend could be lying to save his own skin.
in usualy cases of rape its unplanned so clothes woul still be on and usually in cases of rape violence is shown in tears on clothes as well, forced entry on the body is also seen.
If he didn't rape her and everything was fine ther should be no signs of this and as long as your friend tells the truth he shold be fine.
Don't let this put you off women. It should be a lesson to learn, never have sex with someoen until your 100% sure its what you both want.
Message me for more infor or advice
Raven x
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (8 January 2008):
It's either your friend is telling the truth or he did actually rape her.In any case don't be put off not all girls are like that.In such cases,the first thing they look for is physical evidence which may prove beyond reasonable doubt your friend actually raped her.If none is found,they'll now try and find conclusive evidence which is a matter of personal oppinion and it's at this stage that most say it's her word against his.If she did accept,tell him to take it easy and not try contacting her as it may work against him.What happened to him doesn't mean that it'll automatically happen to you.Enjoy your own life.
Take care.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 You may have to accept the fact that your friend is lying to you as well. In any event if she has been raped there are usually signs of forced entry which will be determined by a medico.
Don't let it put you off girls, I just feel your friend is not giving you the full story here.
She could also be under the age of consent, in which case your friend is in real trouble.
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reader, Nick838 +, writes (8 January 2008):
There is no way of denying that he had sex, so the only thing he can do is tell the truth and think posatively. Good luck.
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (7 January 2008):
 how old they because if she is younger then him he can be easily done for rape and so on if there both underage then maybe it wont be so harsh on the boy i think you should talk to the girl and say what you think of this if shes underage tell her that u will be on the sex offenders list and other things and it would be selfish for her to go to the police because it will stop him from doing certain jobs (mainly to do with kids) and then he might even be put in jail so have a word with her and have a talk with an adult hope this helps xx
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (7 January 2008):
 Well really if she does try to charge him for rape its going to be his word against hers. Im sure theres ways by looking at any signs of a struggle or resistance from clothing or bodily damage (bruises etc).
There has to be tell tale signs which show the difference between concented sex and forced sex. Personally i wouldnt worry, as long as your friend tells the truth he will be fine.
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