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writes: This is my first time asking for help on one of these boards but I need some advice...Okay first a little back round I had known this girl for 7 years, We meet and REALLY hit it off sadely she had to go back to a far off place, Now fasfoward nine months. She stays with me for a month then has to go back home. No title but unspoken we have given our hearts to each other. (lame and sappy I know)Now one night during her depresion on the phone she tells me she did stuff with another guy not much just a little. To my shame I flipted...We got over it and moved on.Fast foward more, I leave everything I had to be with her cause she needs me. I stay there for two weeks then leave for 3 days, While I am gone she cheats on me with the same guy she was messing around with. And yes I KNOW it happend also it turns out after swearing to me up and down that little slip was all it turns out it was not ALOT more happened....I have comfrunted her about it and she broke down and confessed it all, and said she would tell me everything from now on. She still sees this guy he is her best friend now..... I worrie every time she spends time with him with out me there.Its been almost 2 months since we talked about it and it still hurts everytime I see his face I want to lash out at him.... and yes he knew we were togeather when he helpted her cheat on me... Nay advice I would be greatful for...
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reader, marie78 +, writes (11 November 2006):
Leave her! She's playing you for a fool! Leave this woman! If she truly loved you, she wouldn't keep cheating on you. She knows that you're a good guy, who'll always be there for her, but you cannot allow her to use you in this way. Please take my advice! Good luck!
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reader, Itmustbesaid +, writes (8 November 2006):
Well this one is a tough one, but the words that I live by are these "Once a cheater, always a cheater!" It sounds to me like you are having a lot of problems with this, but you don't want to do what is really necessary to stop your pain which is to LEAVE HER!
There is nothing you can do that will stop her from communicating with her new best friend so either you learn to deal with her telling you she cheated again on you or you cut your losses and run as fast as you can. There are a lot of women out there that would not think about doing that to their partner and I think you deserve to be with one of them.
Think of it this way, what hurts more, seeing her with him and imagining all of the things that they did together, or spending a little bit of time by yourself trying to find what you really want in a women. If you are with her for the sex, remember that you are not the only one there for that reason. Sorry to be so blunt, but it has happened to me and leaving was the only option I had, sure it hurts for a while, but eventually you will find someone that will love, cherish and respect your feeling. Good luck.
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