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She broke my heart, I moved on... but not completely.

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Question - (23 December 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 24 December 2008)
A female Canada age 30-35, *amaged heart writes:

My boyfriend says that I was brave enough and he is proud of me for dumping my girlfriend... but somehow it feels wrong to do it... I am happy with him but deep down inside I know she's not right for me cuz she broke my heart once and I let her in my life again but I really don't feel the same... I do love her but I love him too. I don't deserve that type of treatment from her, I deserve better so I dumped her and I went with him. I'm feeling a bit insecure, even tho she broke my heart I STILL love her.

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A female reader, damaged heart Canada +, writes (24 December 2008):

damaged heart is verified as being by the original poster of the question

omggggggggggggggg thank YOU BLUEANGEL!

the line about letting go and all that definatly wowed me!

and thank you Gina may you have a wonderful xmas with your family and loved ones :)

oh and happy new year to you too Blue Angel :)

hope 2009 is a good one for us alL!

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A female reader, Blue_Angel0316 United States +, writes (24 December 2008):

Blue_Angel0316 agony auntYou are welcome sug I hope that you will have a Very Happy and PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR!

"To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful.”

"God can heal a broken heart but He has to have all the pieces."

"Giving up doesn’t always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go. ”

“If someone hurts you,

betrays you, or breaks your heart,

forgive them for they have helped

you learn about trust and

the importance of being cautious

to who you open you heart to.”

Blessings,

Blue_Angel

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A female reader, damaged heart Canada +, writes (24 December 2008):

damaged heart is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thank you Gina and thank you Blue Angel both of you are very helpful :)

merry xmas

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A female reader, Blue_Angel0316 United States +, writes (23 December 2008):

Blue_Angel0316 agony auntSometime hon love really hurts. It is often hard to let go of someone even when they are no longer around. It's ok to continue to care for a lost love but if you want your heart to heal so you can move on you must put this behind you.

When you think about your new relationship, look for all of the good things you have now. Don't waste precious time holding onto something that has given you such a heart breaking experience not once but twice already in your lifetime. Try to go with what you have now and take each day at a time. Remember that sometimes it's hard to find a real long lasting love. No matter how much you love someone it just ISN'T ALWAYS MEANT TO BE.

Remember that it is far better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Now you have a chance for a new start and a chance for a new love to grow. Don't pass it up for something that will probably never be. Loosing someone you love is an awful feeling but letting go and finding someone who WILL love you back in return the way you deserve is a SPECIAL FEELING and one that I Pray you have found.

When you love someone they will be forever etched in your heart but in time that love will change and make it more bearable. You are insecure because you are afraid that your new boyfriend could turn out to be the same way as your ex. Don't let that hinder you from accepting his love and hoping for the best. Without HOPE we have little left to reach for. It is going to take time to get over this empty feeling. Your boyfriend seems to be a great guy as he has already told you that you are not alone and he is her for you. Let him be and accept that as it is hon. One day at a time. Cherish every moment that you have together and let your love grow in whatever way it will. Always remember that there truely is Someone for Everyone and maybe she just wasn't it. Seek GOD'S WILL for your life and HE in HIS INFINITE WISDOM WILL CARRY YOU THRU.

I am sure you are the better person for having loved your ex but she clearly can't make you the number one person in her relationship status so you have to move on or you could possibly miss out on the best thing that ever came along.

REACH FOR THE STARS and GRASP THEM TIGHTLY for IN TIME YOUR EYES WILL BE UPON YOUR TRUEST LOVE.

My best to you and MERRY CHRISTMAS!

God bless,

Blue_Angel

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A female reader, damaged heart Canada +, writes (23 December 2008):

damaged heart is verified as being by the original poster of the question

i cant there really religious :(

i dont even talk to my parents that much...

thanks a mil tho :)

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A female reader, damaged heart Canada +, writes (23 December 2008):

damaged heart is verified as being by the original poster of the question

oh Gina, if only you knew both of my parents are doctors infact my whole family are doctors....

i really cant seek any medical help...i am trying to get help by reading other people's stories and helping myself by realising im not alone thats all.. thank you for your great advice wish u a good day

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A female reader, damaged heart Canada +, writes (23 December 2008):

damaged heart is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thank you Gina, thanks for your reply

but you kno everything reminds me of her...

my boyfreind said dont wory dont stress your with me your not alone..

but i feel this insecurity and anxeity all the time

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