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writes:I had a female bestfriend for about 4 years which no one beleived that a guy could be bestfreinds with another girl. I wanted to prove them wrong but it didnt exactly turn out that way. When we were in school she had a crush on me and i kinda played it off. Long story short we became really close and were "bestfriends". I was back and forth in a relatiionship through out our friendship. But one single night we kissed and it turned into a regural thing that one nite led up to sex. Suprisingly i didnt want to have sex with her afraid of losing her as a friend. She confessed one night that she was in love with me and at the time my feelings for her were strong but a love connection for me yet. Me and my ex were not completely finished which left me with a situation. My friend eventually found a new love and told she couldnt do us no more. Freindship done i was heartbroken and couldnt sleep for nights.I realized i was in love with her..but she recently text that she really missed in her life but i did not reply afraid that me and her would interfere with her new boyfriend. I really want to talk to her or atleast text but i dont want to mess up a happy home..should i call or text cause i know the feelings will coming rushing back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): Hey, I'm just a kid so might not think my advice is that great but i'll answer this question.It looks like as soon as she was out of your life you finally realised that you loved her. Took you long enough! Ok, well what i would do is simply call her, ask her to meet you (make sure you see her face to face) and tell her straight out that you love her and cannot go on without her. if she loves you and cares for you then she will tell her that she loves you, dump her boyfriend and you two will live happily ever after. Then again it might not happen since she has a new boyfriend! So you must prepare for rejection as well as love. She might be over you and say sorry you missed your chance. And if she does, then do not get upset simply tell yourself that you will find another lucky girl to love someday.Good luck in your quest for love.
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reader, mcclareng3 +, writes (11 January 2011):
You need to stop beating around the bush, If you love her the way you explained then show her you care. tell her this "I miss you too but more than just a friend, but I'm worried If I ruining what you have" or something like that, tell her what's in your mind because I know you don't want to be the friend that's going to be there when she has boyfriend problems. Will you be a Homewrecker that's on your call. if she cares about you the same you do, you guys will build a good foundation for a relationship and have a healthy one. There are two ways you can go with this, love her and show her or let her go because you want her to be happy, remember let it not be infatuation and only do what I told you if your willing to be with her for a long time and commit yourself to her and be trustworthy. I'll leave you with one more thing, women don't know what they want, but if you show them that you can be that one guy that is always there for them, they'll stick by your side through thick and thin.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (11 January 2011):
Be sensitive to her new relationship, but as her friend you are entitled to express yourself. Remember that at the time she poured her heart out to you, you told her you didn't quite feel the same way. I'm sure she felt rejected at that point and moved on. I know it still hurt you, but its not 100% her fault. She could have done two things: wait for you to feel the same way or move on, and she chose the latter.But now is the time to be honest with her. Tell her that you realized you did have these feelings for her, but talk it out as friends. You need to let her make the choice. If she really likes this new guy she's with, she'll stay with him. If she still finds herself hoping to be with you then she has to make the choice on her own to make her way towards you again. Either way, tell her the truth and offer her your friendship and support no matter what.You never know where life will lead you. I wish you the best.
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