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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello, I am a 15 year old boy who sorta has a problem. Right now I like this girl who is 16 and goes to my school, very much and she is a close friend of mine. I think she likes me too. So yesterday i was on this chat site talking and meeting new people. I found this very beautiful girl who lives in florida and is 14 years old. We was chatting then I ask her for her Facebook profile and then we became friends on Facebook. So today on Facebook, we was chatting until she asked me to be her boyfriend! Right after the day we met! So I told her Im going to be her boyfriend and she got excited. I actually don't have real feelings for this girl because I just met her. I told her I want to be her boyfriend because I dont want to dissapoint her. She is really nice. Also I dont want the girl I like right now to find out. What should I do?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (8 July 2010):
 You need to learn that you cannot do things like this just in case you "dissappoint" someone, you are in a worse mess now than if you had just said no! This is part of learning about relationships and how to deal with people, you actually have to be strong and if you dont want to do something always say no right away, before you can hurt people further.
The best way to fix this is to talk to your "girlfriend". Tell her she is beautiful and you like her, but you feel it is too soon to say you are "boyfriend and girlfriend" because you dont know her well enough yet. You say she is in Florida, if you live a long way away then this is another good reason - tell her you have had a think and you dont want to do a long distance relationship, that you are not cut out for it and you are really sorry. Obviously if you are in Florida too then this wont work as an excuse!
She will be very upset, she will be really excited she has a boyfriend, and probably will have told lots of people. So there is no way of doing this without upsetting her, but it is best to end it now before she gets more attached to you and then it will hurt more when you end it. At least you dont know each other that well and you have not met in person so she cannot have very strong feelings for you yet. But if you leave it longer she will start to have stronger feelings hence she would be more upset if you ended it later.
If you do this now and still be nice to her, but make it clear you dont want a relationship with her - then you should be ok and the girl you like will never have to know a thing about it.
And make sure you learn your lesson - dont let this happen again!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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