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writes:I've been with my this guy for two weeks so very new relationship. In the two weeks we've slept together every day and I've gone down on him but he hasn't done the same for me. In fact tonight I was going down on him even though I didn't really feel like it - I thought it was part of foreplay. I asked him to do the same to me instead he put his clothes back on said he was too lazy and he couldn't be bothered to which I replied "Well sometimes I don't much feel like it but I do it because I want to watch you squirm" he went into the bedroom and lay on the floor and made me feel really uncomfortable. Then he went to the couch saying he was tired and had a sore back. When I said he'd upset me he just ignored me. this is a man who says he wants me to have his baby which I think I'm too young for I'm only 22 but he seems serious about us so why the weird stuff like tonight? Whats his problem? Is it me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): Every time I read a posting like this, my instant response is - why the hell would someone have sex with someone they have spent so little time in getting to know? Saves SO much heartbreak. PLEASE, ladies, you need to realise that a DECENT guy who is interested in YOU as a person and wanting a proper relationship with you will very happily WAIT. I never heard the saying until recently but for a large number of guys (but not all of us, I promise you): "why buy the cow if you get the milk for free?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): Its time to wake up!!!! Hes using you!!!!!!!!!!! he doesnt give a sh** about your feelings. Thats why he ignores you! When you begin a sexual relationship with someone that fast, this is what happens. End the relationship and learn from your mistakes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): no offense, hun, but i think you should have gotten to know him a lot better first before doing anything sexual with him. you cant possibly know someone well within two weeks. it takes time to love someone and personally, ithink you should only do intimate stuff with someone you love, and who loves you.
but, i do agree that he is an abuser and very selfish. i wouldnt waste any more time on him. at least you have found out his true colours now early on though .
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (8 July 2010):
 His problem is HIM, and he's going to suck you into his little nightmare if you stay. You're two weeks into this relationship, this should be a honeymoon period. Instead, he walks away, acts like a 2 year old and pouts.
Seriously, run run run RUN away from this guy as fast as you can. There's something wrong with him indeed, and it's not you. Get out while you still have your self-respect!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): ok so an update. I went to the bathroom no more then two minutes when I came back in my boyfriend was masturbating to one of those nude channels and didn't seem fussed by the fact I caught him. was this out of selfish frustration that I wanted something in return? I'm so hurt but I don't know how to react. I'm an idiot for putting trust in someone so quickly.
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reader, gamble2002 +, writes (8 July 2010):
I am sorry he is acting like this two weeks into what should be the exciting first stages of a relationship, but maybe it is better to see his true colors before you are heavily invested. He sounds like he is very immature and unable to communicate his feelings/thoughts. I would never expect or want my partner to go down on me if I wasn't willing to reciprocate. Talk to him, do you really want to be with someone who can't empathize with you or even respond when you tell him he made you upset. Also being two weeks into a relationship, a person should not be making statements that they want you to have their baby. You are 22, go enjoy life and find someone who will love, cherish and respect you.Good luck.
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