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writes:hey i really just want to settle down i know im still young but im fed up of getin hurt. all the boys i go for have what they want and then dont bother with me untill they want it again. iv tryed not givin it to them but then i just get up set and feel alone. i just want someone to cuddle up to and spend time with without it just being about sex. what can i do ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for eveyones answers
im not mmoanin about the sex i love it lol but just want a bit more plus the sex eg realthionship
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reader, connor sloane +, writes (10 May 2010):
 I have the same problem, except my ex only wanted sex, an i kno that sounds wierd comin from a 16 yr old but i like to hug an cuddle too, but with my ex when she couldnt get when she wanted it she went out an had sex with someine else (whilst i was with her).I think that you'll find the right person someday that makes you feel special an isnt in it jus for the sex. :)
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reader, scotfish +, writes (10 May 2010):
 You should't feel bad about wanting that from sombody, yes a lot of guys are only interested in sex first but not all of us, not that sex isnt a good thing and very enjoyable, but personally i would often much prefer a cuddle and time with sombody i loved, sex is great but the feeling of joy and closeness from just having that special person in your arms i say is better than anything else, keep trying you will meet the right person one day x :)
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 May 2010):
 I am shocked and appalled at men anyway, how you guys can walk around with those things is a mystery to me.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 May 2010):
Try harder not giving it to them. If you feel you are being used you most likely are and not only that but you are allowing it to happen. Getting to know someone before you have sex with them will insure you find a nice guy, the losers will fall by the wayside. Cuddling is fine but most guys won't consider it to be a substitute for sex, nor should it be.
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reader, sammyo +, writes (10 May 2010):
Try to meet some new people. Don't overlook anyone. The sweetest guys are the ones who don't jump out at you. Shy boys are great, too. Most won't pull your pants off and force you to do anything. Be yourself and tell guys what you want upfront.
Also, some great relationships start out as friendships.
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